I normally don’t pay much attention to lists, but I decided that this one was worth while creating.  So after a round table discussion and much thought, I came up with my list of mistakes that I’ve noticed white women make when dating black men. 

10.  Being too demanding.  I’ve noticed that white women will be demanding and that doesn’t go over well with a black man.  Resentment can be created quickly with this approach.

9.  Not acknowledging culture differences.  Yes, there are differences in our culture.  It starts with everything from social themes, family background, diets, and even style of dress.

8.  Public Confrontations.  Black men hate being confronted by their mate in public.  If there’s a disagreement, we would rather have you talk about this in private.  Public embarrassment is never a good option.

7.  Being to accessible.  There are too many times when white women are available for him when ever he calls, because that is the only time he has available.  Black men can and/or will abuse that option more than others.

6.  Give too much financially.  This one is a popular but not forgotten.  Often, white women think they have to get his attention by buying him gifts, taking him on vacations, and even cloths.  This is a major mistake in my opinion.

 5.  Try to be a player.  I’ve watched white women try to date several black men at the same time.  They don’t think any of them will find out.  The truth is, we all don’t know each other, but we do share our dating notes.  The interracial dating scene is a small world. 

4.   Attempting to be hip.  Just because you’re dating interracial, doesn’t mean you have to talk different, act different, and dress different.  He was attracted to you for who you are, and not what you could be.

3.  The Myth isn’t true.  Yes, I called it ‘the myth’.  Not all black men are well endowed sexually.  Physically, we are proportionate just like everyone else.  I don’t think I need to explain more on this one. 

2.  Not being assertive.  Black men are confident.  We are attracted to women with direction, confidence and energetic.  This has been referred to as a ‘Go Getta’.

 1.  The ‘N’ word.  Richard Pryor made jokes about it, but it’s true.  Just because you’re in a interracial relationship, doesn’t give you the ability to use the ‘N’ word.  Some black men are thug types and use this vocabulary regularly.  There are also  educated, business minded black men that don’t use it at all.  There’s never a  reason why a white woman can use this word.

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