I had such a great time on Saturday.  It was a full day of fun.  I had one of my oldest son with me, so it was a guy’s day.  We started the day out watching cartoons and eating cereal.  He doesn’t want me to cook breakfast on Saturday morning, it’s always a tradition to have cereal and watch Tom and Jerry.  Around 1pm we got dressed and headed to Starbucks.  I’ve noticed him growing up before my eyes.  He’s now paying attention to girls.  He’s a teenager now, so it’s natural.  I just wasn’t sure how much he’s into girls.  So we sat in the comfy chairs drinking, reading the newspaper and talking.  I asked him how many phone numbers he has in his cell phone.  He said 80.  I waited a couple minutes and said, how many are girls numbers.  He said he didn’t know, then he counted and said 25!  Damn.  Times have changed since I was a kid.  He laughed at me and called me old school.  So I approached it from the angle of what his friends do and talk about.  Do they have girl friends, do they think they’re a pimp, and do they talk about sex.  He tells me a couple have girl friends, and they don’t talk about sex, yet.  But he wouldn’t consider any of them a player.  So he begins to tell me he’s not interested in having a girl friend, he just wants friends.  He’s focusing on school, sports, going to college, and he dreams of playing in the NFL.  I was still in shock that in Jr. High School he has 25 girls phone numbers.  He tells me he doesn’t ask for ask for their numbers, they ask for his.  Is there a pattern starting?  I’ve always had great communication with him, so I decided to wait to have the come to Ali-Babba with him.  Instead I sat there and listened to him talk about how the girls at school act.  He also had plenty of stories of which girls all the boys liked.  I’m not sure if we ever get past someones appearances.  They notice how others dress, their hair, and act.  He made some great observations.  The biggest one is ‘I’m comfortable with myself, I don’t need a girl friend to have fun’.  Maybe that is what TR37 meant when she told me I was happy to be single.  Yes, I know it’s been a couple weeks, but that statement resonates in my memory.  I’m sure it wasn’t the easiest thing for her to say, but I respect her honesty.  Relationships, no matter what kind take honesty.  If you’re afraid to say what you feel, I’d recommend analyzing if you truly have a quality relationship.  Over the years, I’ve always remained true to myself and my feelings.  It’s not the easiest thing to do, but it’s the only way to live. 

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