Intimate Moments
Posted on 03 May 2008 | Category: Actual Dates
If you want to be notified the next time I write something, sign up for email alerts or subscribe to the RSS feed. Thanks for reading.
Friday evening was a very busy and fun evening. I decided to go 3 Forks for a glass of wine. Well, I ended up drinking 3 maybe 4 glasses before it was over. I became engaged in conversation with a older guy who had younger date. He was old enough to be her grandfather. It was evident that he is the sugar daddy for several younger women. But this one, Ashley is his favorite. He was full of energy and conversation.
With the exception of chatting with me, their eyes remained focused on each other. They experienced several intimate moments in a crowded bar. It was fun to watch. While I was there JP39 text me to meet up for drinks. We decided in the spirit of Cinco De Mayo that we should go to On The Border In Frisco. When I arrived, JP39 was sitting at the bar having a margarita.
I was standing there joking with her friend on the phone how I was going to celebrate Cinco De Mayo with a margarita and when Juneteenth comes we’re going to drink malt liquor. Everyone around me at the bar was laughing. So on the way to the restroom I met MC31 who was sitting behind us at a table. MC31 is a attractive 31 year old, dark haired, green eyed woman and a smoker. It appeared she was waiting on someone. I told her, “your date needs to be on time before you decide to join our party”. I wasn’t attempting to flirt, I was just being friendly. Now this is where the evening gets interesting. I decided to chat with 2 women on the way back from the men’s room. SS35 and MD35 were very nice. Some how we began to chat about idatewhite.com. They began to read the site on their phones. Of course, they found my opinions interesting. MD35 is married and SS35 is single. I asked them both if they’ve ever dated a black man before. They answered NO. Their family would kill them. haha It was about this time when MC31 and JP39 decided to move to the patio. I stayed behind to continue the conversation. We discussed general relationship topics and shared our thoughts. We even discussed sex toys, past sexual partners, and booty calls. After 45 minutes of chatting I went to the patio to join JP39. I was immediately verbally attacked by MC31. ”You’re a asshole and a dick! I know your type” I smiled, “Yes I am a asshole and a dick” I replied. I’ve never denied being either one at times. Somehow she felt that I disrespected JP39 by spending time socializing with other people. Her line of reasoning is… I’m a attractive guy, I’m arrogant, and I can do what I want. She claimed she hated everything I stand for. Well my question is, What do I stand for? I attempted to explain that it’s not about my looks, it’s not about my arrogance, and it’s more than she even dreamed of. She even accused me of not showing JP39 any attention. This went on for 10 minutes while other people tried to calm her and explain to her that it’s not her place to hold judgement. So here’s my question, What is a intimate moment? Is it spending 3 hours on a dinner date? Can it be a kiss in Time Square? Could it be just eye contact across a crowded room? Maybe it’s a soft touch on the cheek. Well it could be all of those and more. Intimate moments don’t always consist of sexual moments. Intimate moments come in many shapes, colors, languages and forms. What maybe intimate one time may not be the next time. The intimate moments I spend with JP39 is not the same type of intimate moments that I share with any one else. Chances are that JP39 wouldn’t appreciate the same type of moments that another date would. Why? JP39 is a individual. We’re all unique individuals. We have different likes, dislikes, pleasures and pains. So when JP39 told MC31 that she had judged me all wrong, why did this make matters worse with MC31? I believe that somehow my actions triggered a memory of bad experience. For someone to proclaim, “I know your type”, there has to be a past experience. MC31 has adamantly denied that and wouldn’t elaborate how she felt she knew my type.
At the end of the night I learned something from MC31. Intimate moments can only be judged by those that are sharing the moments with you. As much as you enjoy someones company, it’s impossible to monopolize their time. It’s those short, brief intimate moments that will make you smile. Enjoy the memory of the moments. The memory will last a lifetime.
Post your comments, I’d like to hear your thoughts.
If you like this post, then consider subscribing to my full feed RSS.
May 4th, 2008 at 1:18 am
Yep, you’re an asshole!
GirlNxtDrWFlare@aol.com
Elizabeth aka Beth
May 4th, 2008 at 1:26 am
Usually people who know me verify that. haha
Thanks for the comment Beth aka Elizabeth.
May 4th, 2008 at 5:23 am
It seems to me you were disrespectful of your “date”. You had gone to OTB specifically to meet this person for drinks. You then walked away from her to use the facilities and on your way back stopped and spent 45 minutes flirting with other women. While I am aware you aren’t in an exclusive relationship with the woman you were meeting for drinks, you did go there to meet her. To stop and essentially leave her alone (yep the other woman was there, but her date could have shown up before you came out of the mens room) for 45 minutes while you flirted with other women was disrespectful to her. It does however fit your “I’m the center of the universe and the life of the party” persona and if the women who meet you will put up with it and don’t mind, well then, ……do what you do. Just my opinion.
May 5th, 2008 at 11:50 am
Ha ha ha! In regard to SthrnClss’s opinion about the way your spent your time while you were at OTB w/ JP39. Well, in my opinion, you were being you. You have your life posted as an open book. Have always been honest and straight forward about whom you are & what you desire. I am sure that your “date” already knows that. I find it hard to believe she had no clue that you would be by her for ever second you were at OTB. You don’t deny who you are, how your feelings are, what type of personality your have, what desires you have, what questions you seek. So what is the problem? And yes, intimate moments vary……I am sure you meant no disrespect to JP39. You have never portrayed yourself as a disrespectful person. You are an extravert & very flirtacious. What is wrong with that? It is fine in my book. People love to judge extravert’s-more so than an intravert, in my opionion. One thing you need to remember is to Remember to be ialways be intimate with yourself, your passions, your desires, your dreams, your heart & soul & your fantasies! Don’t ever let someone have to power to rob that from you.
May 5th, 2008 at 11:59 am
Cindy, I am the same person all the time. I’m true to myself and with myself. Anyone who knows me or spends time with me understands that. I’m sure you are realizing that when ya read this site.
May 5th, 2008 at 7:25 pm
I will say I’m constantly amazed at what women will put up with and say and do to be with a man.
Good for you, you know the type and you use that to your advantage. ….do what ya do……
May 7th, 2008 at 3:36 pm
Well, in my opinion if you, (personally you), go out to meet a friend and they know what you’re about in advance who cares who you stop and talk to or for how long. You weren’t “intimate” with the woman you stopped to talk to. you were being social just like you write about. If your date is comfortable with it who cares what the rest of the world thinks. The point is jp39 knew what to expect. No expectations!!!! And obviously she wasnt insecure about the situation between you two or she probably would have just walked out.. During the time you spend with her alone you must make her feel special and secure enough to know that it doesnt matter who you talk to during the night just who you end up with at the end of the night.
And to your previous writer just because someone puts up with your life style it doesnt make them desperate. It makes them free. Some woman like the no strings approach.
May 10th, 2008 at 7:09 pm
LOL @ no strings approached. Sorry but if you don’t expect enough respect from someone you are out with (even someone who you are “just friends” with, and being intimate with someone takes them out of the “just friends” category IMHO) then for them to not leave you for 45 minutes to chat with other women, all I can say is wow! You can have no strings with respect from the person you are with.
Nowhere (in my post at least) was the word desperate used, hmmmmm wonder whose sub conscious that came from.
But again I say, he knows the type women who will put up with what he does and how he does it and he uses it to his advantage, good for him.
And believe me, being made to “feel special” in your alone time isn’t that special, if you are choosing the right type of man to spend alone time with. Secure? LOL what does secure have to do with being one of many? ROFL now that was funny.
Do be so touchy, you know you’re one of many, if you are ok with that, what’s the deal. If all you want is good for you type comments ….oh well sorry. Good with the bad….
May 11th, 2008 at 2:01 am
Sthrnclss why are we still commenting on this post.. why not move forward to the next one? I’m not sure how much more of your opinion is left to be said.. but I’m sure it was clear the first 2 times you commented. Anyway.. The story has moved on… and everyone is happy. Keep up with the action! lol