Monday I celebrated Cinco De Mayo in a unconventional way.? I had a sushi dinner?with MC31.? Yes that’s true, MC31!? I wanted to have a quiet dinner and get to know her.? After Friday night, she decided to go check out my blog.? She has mixed feelings about my writings.? The most surprising thing from MC31 is the apology that I received.?
She admits that I didn’t deserve her wrath and anger.? She may not agree with the type of relationship JP39 has with me, but I didn’t do anything to her personally.? I humbly accepted.
? It was at this point I began to truly get to know MC31.? First we agreed to some basic terms, always be honest, no off limit topics, have fun and don’t play the 20 question game.? The first 20 minutes or so MC31 told me about the last 10 years of her life and some very traumatic events.? I know she’s reading this, so I want to thank her for sharing some of the most intimate details of her life with me.? I must say I’m very sympathetic to the events that have occurred in her life.? There are several things that happened, but the one part I will divulge is the suicide death of her brother.? I now know that she was very close to her brother.? I didn’t realize one of my comments on Friday reminded her of him.? Just talking about him brought tears to her eyes.? From what I can tell, this is the first time she’s been back to Texas since her brothers death and this last week has been an emotional experience for her.??It’s been?a very nostalgic week for her.? Why was she spilling her heart to me?? Maybe she doesn’t know my type.? Maybe she judged me wrong.? I think she realized, from reading my blog,?I don’t have a hidden agenda.? I’m glad she’s open minded enough to get to know me under better circumstances.? MC31 has always been open to dating men of different ethnic backgrounds, but is dating mostly black men in the last few years.??She admits her biggest fear is ending up alone.? The one unexplainable thing is we met by chance.? It’s just by chance the one person she?released her anger on is not easily offended. The woman that was mad on Friday night wasn’t at dinner tonight.? I was having dinner with a warm hearted, loving, caring, humorous, and compassionate woman.? I have a much better understanding of MC31.? After spending 2 plus hours with me, she also realizes that I’m not the asshole she assumed I was.??We enjoyed a very intimate?dinner.? Except for 30 minutes, we were alone in the restaurant.? Knowing that she’s a attention whore, we didn’t have any distractions (inside joke).? She wanted to know why I’ve been so nice to her after Friday.? Some how I could see the pain and hurt in her eyes.? I know some?readers view me as a “asshole”, but that’s not always true.? I try to have good relationships with good people.? I know that MC31 is a good woman.? At the very least MC31 and I will be friends.? We’ve made plans to see a movie later this week.? She gave me a great hug and we left.
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Okay, MC31 is the one that you met while out with JP and got mad when she found out you were actually there on a date with JP. I guess I wonder a few things, but mainly how would the two of you gotten together unless you had gotten her phone number BEFORE she realized you were there with someone else or she got yours? You failed to mention that in your original post. You didn’t just have a casual fun conversation with her while there with someone else, you exchanged numbers?
FYI.. I was NOT on a date with JP39. MC31 gave her number to JP39, but I snagged it from JP39′s hand. We were texting back and for on Sunday/Monday.
Lol. okay, so a woman gave another woman her phone number, you snagged it and used it? Why did she give JP her phone number…..for her or for you? I think you’re spinning this to make it seem that you weren’t on a “date” with JP, so that you don’t look like an ass for being on a “date” and getting another chicks phone number. Because if you spin it that way, even most men would say that screams shitty.
I looked back now and I see the date with JP39 that you had. She was a reader of the site, found you attractive but she was “heavier” than you prefer…but she did the job for the moment that night.
Let me see if I have it right. You sleep with a woman from this site, who reads your blogs, finds you attractive and then blog about her in an insensitive way. For whatever the reason, this woman finds it within herself to actually see you again at a bar and you meet a woman who’s sitting behind you (MC31). JP then gets the number to MC31 because they’re going to go out or hit it off as friends. You take the number from JP (as a joke, but the jokes on her because you actually WANT it) and then you start texting the woman to get together? I’m pretty smart, so I think I see the clear picture….crystal clear.
Good lord, were you raised by a pack of wolves with no manners or tact? Don’t try and justify bullshit under the guise of “we weren’t on a date”. Regardless of your intentions with JP, you’ve slept with this woman and it’s at the very least rude and insensitive. I’m really shocked by the fact that you can find a way to dismiss the rudeness of your behavior and then become indignant that “WE WEREN’T ON A DATE!!!” YOU SLEPT WITH HER.
I appreciate you psychic gift of insight. Since all parties involved are readers of this site now, I was NOT on a date with JP39. I actually invited MC31 and her date to meet us at another bar. Her date declined but she came out. If I wanted the number I can get it on my own. The facts are spelled out in the post..and there’s no twist or spin. As usual, your Northern charm has got it twisted!
Lol….yes, the facts are spelled out in the post and I read them clearly. It doesn’t take a psychic ability to read what you wrote. You wrote it, not me. Furthermore, you also made the choice to make your personal, very personal life, public. You set the site up so folks could comment on your dates and/or leave opinions. Don’t get shitty because you don’t like the responses or because not every woman shares your same warped views on dating.
It’s not like this site is RAGING with viewers….I think many mature folks would find this site ridiculous (what does that say about me) and something expected from a 20 something year old….not a grown man. Even so, it’s fun to read this stuff, but sometimes you’re an asshole. Really.
haha..you make me laugh….As you’ve said before.. you’ve tried to leave this site..and some how keep coming back. You’re right, what does that say about you? And yes, I’m a asshole and a dick…AT times.
FYI.. I’m happy with the amount of traffic that this 1 project has generated. Enjoy reading.
Lol…”traffic”. Okay, I guess if you consider 10 – 20 folks “traffic”….lol. I have kept coming back but it’s not been for the stimulating or educational conversations…..it’s because it’s like watching a train wreck and you can’t turn away. Lol….truly.
“And yes, I?m a asshole and a dick…” Those are your words…..I”ll just agree.
Yes traffic… And since most of the readers get updates via email.. which doesn’t show on any of the sites counters ( feed counts & site counter) you would never see it.
And my full quote was.. “I’m a Asshole and a dick at times” I’m sure you’ll reply again because you hate for someone else to have the last word. haha
Ok some how I feel like the joke is on me. And you know what some how I just dont care!!!!! I am a bit embarrassed though because i cant find the blog about me to either defend myself or go cry in a corner. ANd if you did say something insensitive about me your still “sleeping ” with me so I must not be that much too heavy or that bad in bed. Or maybe I am just a “time out” who knows…..
You see, this is exactly why you shouldn’t “kiss and tell”. The idea of this site was a great one, at first. You were blogging about your dating, views on dating inter racially. You used “code names” for your dates and escapades for confidentiality and it seemed harmless. Let’s face it, no woman that I know would be okay about some guy blogging about our dates and personal sex life. It would be the ultimate betrayal in any relationship whether it included sex or not. It was fine and innocent when it was kept to code names and confidential.
But, you took it to a whole other level when you decided to post about someone you met from this “project” of yours. And that’s really where the fun stops and it just turns into something mean and childish. It’s as if it’s all a project to you and you’ve forgotten that these are people that you affect and influence and there’s a certain level of responsibility that comes with that and frankly, you failed JP in that regard. Date or no date, whatever, read her post above and tell me that she hasn’t been hurt or influenced over this and you have yourself to blame for that.
You strike me as a man who’s full of himself; full of “bluster and bluff and empty show”. A man who thinks getting laid more than once a week means, what….you’re the man? Okay, you’re the man. And so now you’re the man who couldn’t just be flattered that a woman would want to meet you from this project you’ve come up with. That you couldn’t have just had a personal, private relationship with JP and kept “this one” to yourself knowing that she knows of this site.
I think what you’ve done in this situation is not only tacky, rude and unbecoming….it’s mean at it’s very core and speaks volumes of who you are, what kind of a man you are and more importantly, what kind of a mate you would be. Shallow and self-serving. Next.
I could not have said it better myself Ashantii. I will leave it at that. But….unfortunately he will never see or come to understand the meaning of everything you said. He is not going to come to that “OMG” level and realize his words are very hurtful to people, because he doesn’t care. He informed me that day of our last date, of what I thought was a date and he says was not (sound familuar), that is he knows how to push peoples buttons and has no problem doing it when he does not like you. This is the reason that so many of us are tired of the whole dating thing. It seems like a project to most when all it does is let us down even more. It gets very tiring…
Me pushing people’s buttons didn’t refer to anything that has happened with you or in this post. You’re taking it out of context. I wouldn’t classify it as a date, because IF we had the conversation over the telephone, there would have been no need to go to Humperdink’s..
I will appologize for you being confused. Now that things are clearer to you…I hope you are ok with it..and able to see past it.
LMAO… ok… whatever “eathan”. Keep telling yourself anything and everything you want to hear. Makes me no difference… I was just posting and commenting as you continously ask people to do.
Makes no difference to you huh…lol
Oh Ok..
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