I Date White

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Saturday night was lots of fun.  I went to Cape Buffalo to watch the Dallas Stars vs Detroit Red Wings hockey game.  Nigel decided to drive from Las Colinas to hang out for a while.  We caught up on the weeks activities and dates.  We decided to leave when the game was over and go to Houston’s.  It was around 930 when we got there, it wasn’t busy.  Houston’s is one of my favorite places to eat and have a glass of Merlot. 

Nigel ordered chili and I ordered smoked salmon.  Delicious!  It was about 20 minutes after we got there a tall, young woman sat two seats from me.  Originally, I guessed her age to be 22, but she is 24.  It didn’t take long before I was talking to Kirsten24.  Kirsten24 is 5′10″ tall, brunette.  She has long beautiful hair, great smile and a wonderful figure.  Just for starters, she works in a local hi-end department store.  It was a simple coincidence that we both share the same birthday.  I overheard her phone conversation with a friend.  It appeared as if she was offering her friend help.  It ended up being her ex-boyfriend.  We began to talk about her phone conversation with her ex-boyfriend.  I was a bit surprised to hear her say, she was still in love with him.  I figured it was a recent break up, but it has been 3 years.  Wow!  She referred to him as her ‘soulmate‘.  She admits to having long relationships since him, but still in love with him.  So I had to ask.  Would you dump you current boyfriend if you had a chance to get the ex back?  She immediately answered, “yes!”  There’s relationship security.  So I wanted to get some insight on what is wrong with the current relationship.  She is currently dating a 35 year old guy.  She classifies him as being fun but not long term.  Kirsten24 says, “he’s someone you’d have a affair with, but not marry”.  Oh my!  How could a 24 year old make such a bold statement?  Well, she says he has nothing to offer.  The first thing she admitted to me is for a business owner, he doesn’t save his money.  He chases after her.  He forgave her for cheating on him.  She has wrecked his car and the list goes on.  Kirsten can’t believe that someone would actually put up with this.  She doesn’t respect him at all.  Now I realize there are two sides to every story and every one has their limits, but give me a break!  Does this 24 year old have some special wisdom beyond her years?  Or is this just a simple case of a older guy having fun with a young woman.  I lean towards the last choice.  If you have own your own business, you normally don’t achieve success by accident.  It comes from hard work and savvy decisions.  Now since this is Dallas, attractive young women aren’t hard to find.  Every middle aged man can have one if he wants to spend money.  I must admit she made a couple good points.  She reflects the local dating scene.  It reminds me that a lot of people have alternative motives.  Women associate financial security with having something to offer.  Men associate physical attraction as something to offer.  I’m guilty of this also.  Over the last few months, Nigel has refreshed my memory about the good and bad of dating in Dallas.  Years ago, I would always drive my old car on a first date.  If I had a second date with her, I would take her out in my weekend sports car.  This was very effective to see someones real motives.  The older I get, it’s harder for people to hide their motives from me.  Of course, I use this to my advantage in choosing who I want to date and who I don’t want to date.  It’s never hard to find a date.  The challenge is finding a date that’s sincere with out having alternative motives. 

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