Changing My Profile

Well as a person who has never met anyone from a dating site...I am getting the idea that most of the people on them have issue's....emotional, physical or whatever.

In my opinion anyone that is more than a few pounds overweight has some issue's that need to be corrected..i.e. eating habits, exercise etc.

I don't believe for a minute that anyone is happy with being obese...that is just something obese people say to cover up the fact that they lack the motivation to do what's necessary for as long as necessary. This is the equivalent to broke people saying...."money isn't everything".

Teaser, fat people have the same issues as average sized people. People are people, some of us have great self worth, others of you don't. *shrug* it has nothing to do with size.

Eathan, you're just too witty for me RME. I can't imagine why you didn't last very long coming to. You certainly can hold your own. LOL You remember that site don't you Eathan, the one where you posted your pic in the "Interesting Blog I Came Across" thread.

Wow...I stay out all night, come back and this has turned into a NUTRISYSTEM support blog...

let's stay on the topic of interracial dating... I'll create a weight loss blog later next week.

:D

SWF, it was a general comment in response to your comment.

But, taking a look back at your comment I now see that it seems to be speaking more toward motivated to lose weight than motivated in general. I read Nick's post to be saying fat people aren't motivated in general. I could be incorrect and he could have meant about losing weight.

I, also in general, wonder why people assume fat people want to lose weight. Is it generally thought that if you are fat you can't possibly be happy with yourself? I guess I should go try and be depressed because I'm fat.....damn and here I was all happy and generally well adjusted :) LOL

I do feel people should get to know someone based on them as a person, not how they look. I can't imagine not being friends with some of the people I'm friends with just because of the way they look, you know, their size, hair color........skin color.....etc.....:)

I thought this article was about changing dating sites...now its about fat chicks and bicycles. HA!

@SthrnClss not sure what about my post makes you think i need to be told that fat people are the same as average sized people... ?

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I always wonder what kind of self esteem or emotional issues morbidly obese people have. If you love yourself, you will take care of your body. It is the only one you have! I don't date FAT GUYS! EWWW!

I have tried all the sites. match, pof, perfectmatch, even aff...chemistry dot com thing is the same pool of people on Match.com. I have a free membership to it and I wouldnt waste your time.

I am considering going back to e-harmony. Although the fact that the first match they sent me was BLIND...and I think the whole matching process is boggus, I think it is a different pool of men/women. In my mind someone willing to go thru all those questions and pay a little more, may be interested in a long term relationship, You also lose the STALKING factor. You can't tell when they last signed on, blah blah blah. You don't get to pick the matches, THEY DO!

Good luck, my friend....Happy Fishing!

SWF - I have yet to figure out why people feel the need to cut down someone based on their looks alone. Fat people are the same as thin or average sized people. We have families, jobs, kids, lovers. We're someones mom, dad, sister, brother and child. Just like anyone else of any size.

So what makes fat the last acceptable prejudice? I would say more often than not it's the insecurity of the person doing the judging.

Nick, no excuses here. Being fat and inactive are not mutually inclusive, just like being thin and active are not mutually inclusive.

You seem to be one of those people who think if you're thin you are obviously in good health and if you are fat you are obviously in poor health.

You actually believe because you aren't attracted to fat women (and I'm betting you call any woman over a size 10 or 12 fat) that others aren't? You really believe that because someone is fat they are so desperate for sex they would have it with anyone, even you?

SMH Ignorance does indeed run rampant here.

damn the way you guys talk about fat chicks... dont know if i can stick around here for long.

just because a chick is fat now doesnt mean she isnt motivated. you have no idea what she looked like 3 months ago or what she will look like in 10 months. you should get to know her based on her and then decide if you think she is motivated or not. dont judge that just by looking at her.

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@sthrn isn't being active and fat a conflict? Damn... you can think of alot of excuses...but if you're still fat at the end of the day.. maybe you need to get more active.
or just put down the donuts! Not everyone has a medical condition to be overweight... I'd say more than 90% of overweight people are because of their lack of motivation to change their lifestyle. I have sympathy for the 10%..but the other 90%... just put the donuts down and back away from the buffets.. :D

And as far as endurance...the bycycles just want anyone to ride them.. they've been in the garage collecting dust for yearssssssssss... why endure the misery...yuck!

So, you can't be active and motivated if you're fat? WOW ignorance runs rampant......

And Nick, please do stick with the "model" (LOL yea sure) vehicles, the bicycles need someone with more endurance than you seem to possess.

Speaking of endurance..........

Dayummm..is there someone else who appreciates a active, motivated and physically fit woman besides me? wow.. I'm amazed. haha

Why would i want to ride a bicycle? I mean come on... the new improved 'model' vehicles offer way too many options. Besides if you spend your time riding big girls...opps. bicycles all day... you're too tired to do anything..

The man doth protest too much methinks.....LOL. It's ok Nick, we won't make you use a bike *wink wink* LOL

NOOO that's not what I'm saying... What I'm sayin IS - Everyone had a bike growning up... if you keep it ..its WAYYYYY in the back of the garage for emergencys only! And now that i'm grown...I don't own a bike.. I don't want a bike and won't be seen looking or shopping for a bike.. I'd rather pimp my ride or pimp someone else's ride. But under no circumstances do I want to be a bicycle owner/user.

So Nick, are you saying you prefer big girls but aren't man enough to not let your friends influence what you do? Sure sounds like what you're saying. :)

There should be nothing wrong with dating anyone who appeals to you, such as black men dating white women, white men dating black women, dating a short man, an older woman or a big woman or man.

But we are a hollywood media driven visual society and many people date who they are told they should be dating, rather than thinking for themselves.

Many men prefer thin women with big boobs. Is this truly their preference or is it what society tells them they should prefer? Many women prefer tall dark athletic men (me included, thank God my preference came to fruition :)) but is that their preference or just what society tells them they should prefer?

Who knows really. The only person who can say for sure is you. We all have preferences, what a boring place it would be if we all had the same taste. Has anyone noticed that interracial dating/marrying has more recently become the "in" thing?

When I was dating and when I was on AOL back in the early 90's I can remember not caring to exchange pics right away. I wanted to chat with and get to know the person, before I saw them. Sometimes I wouldn't even get to the meeting part, based on the personality of the person I was chatting with. I've always had my preferences, but I never limited myself to just those preferences when chatting. My philosophy is that you can't ever tell who you might fall in love with, you just might be surprised.

I think everyone should date who they want to date. It's really no ones business but the 2 people involved. Anyone who let's others influence who they date would be too weak for me.

So to the men who prefer the thin women with big boobs I say more power to them. To the women who prefer tall, dark and handsome, more power to us too. To the men who prefer big women, do what you do. It's all good.

There is someone out there for everyone, I know from experience :), you just have to open your eyes and look.

I just have to say that there should be nothing wrong with dating bigger white women. the problem comes with trashy bigger white women...

that's just my humble opinion

Yeah, they always say Big girls are like bicycles.. everyone has one.. you just don't your friends catching your riding one. :D

LOL thank God

I got a saying - Big Fat women need love to...




Just not from me. :D

LOL @ quality of women was low. And you don't think the same women (and men for that matter) make up the greatest majority on ALL the dating sites out there? Don't fool yourself, it's all the same people.

When I was actively on the dating sites the men where all the same. Some changed their screen names from site to site, but they were the same men.

And for the most part it was men who made themselves sound like the most successful men out there , posting in front of big houses or with fancy cars OR they would post only a picture with no text, as if that would be enough to make any woman fall at their feet.

The majority of the men would only smile at you and if they did have text in their profiles it would say "send me an email if you're interested (most often it would say "your"). Most were too cheap to pay for a membership, expecting the woman to be a paying member in order to contact them first.

And I can't count how many men would smile or wink or whatever, at me, yet when they found out I was not desperate enough to rush right over (or invite them over) for sex would turn nasty with the name calling etc. And yes, my profiles always had a current picture and my text always said I am fat. Hell, I've been fat for many many years now, I don't try and hide it, I'm not ashamed of it and I certainly wasn't desperate for male attention because of it.

I still haven't figured that out. I don't know if they are attracted to fat women ( yet on the down low about it LOL) and get their feelings hurt when they are turned down. Or if they just feel the fat woman has to be so desperate for sex (Yea SO not true) she would be grateful to them for making the offer. Or are they just so insecure that they turn nasty even when the thin women turn them down?

I have a friend who would send me the screen names of the women he was interested in from one dating site, to get my opinion. For the most part it was the same with the women, no text, thinking their picture would sell a man on contacting them. Negative text, outlining all the men they DIDN'T want. Or expecting the men to be the ones paying to contact them.

I mean really, if you can't afford or won't afford the small monthly fee to join a dating site what do you expect to happen?

I find it quite amusing to just go and read the profiles now at times.

I fucking hate match.com, but when I get really life busy, I go on there because I can't go out. I usually go a month, do on a few dates, meet some psychos, then cancel my subscription. Ugh.

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