Recently I had a lengthy conversation with a couple female friends.? It?s always enlightening to hear a woman?s prospective and to hear their stories of dating.? I?ve heard all the stories of the great dates.? Of course, I hear the stories of the dates from hell.? At some point in time, I?ve begun to be sympathetic to women.? Sympathetic for women who have to figure out a man?s true intensions and remain emotionally guarded.? Why??
I have several reasons.? I realized that society portrays men to be the aggressor when it comes to dating and relationships.? That means from our teenage years until adulthood, women are taught to wait for the man to initiate a relationship.? That sounds like a fantasy idea.
? The truth is some men have been dirty, deceptive, for along time.? They have been afraid to be truthful or to be real in what they are looking for.? I?ve watched for years as some men will say anything, do anything, and give almost anything to get laid.? They buy women flowers, dinner, cloths, jewelry, and even trips.? Why? They don?t have the confidence to be honest and upfront about their intentions.? I truly am feeling sorry for women who buy into this romantic approach.? Trust me when I say, I?m not a skeptic.? I know it?s extremely difficult for women to try to figure out what a man is thinking.? Is he being real?? Is he just trying to get laid?? Does he really like me?? Is he going to change after we have sex?? I was never one of those guys who felt that I needed to be something that I wasn?t just to get the girl.? Surprisingly enough, I?ve live by a direct theory.? If I meet someone and I like them, I just say so.? If I meet a woman and we?re horny, let?s have fun. If a relationship is in our future, then I?ll always admit that. I?ve never had to take on a 2nd identity.? That?s a true sign of confidence and confidence is sexy.? Isn’t it much easier to just be honest about what we want and let our date/mate make a choice?
The interesting thing is men don?t have to play the games to achieve their goal.? They can just be direct, upfront and honest.? I have a suggestion for the women who have the nerve.? If you see a man you?re interested in, take some initiative.? Take control of your dating experiences.? It?s ok if you make the rules, and make him play.? It?s easier when you are on the offensive.?
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