Recently I had a lengthy conversation with a couple female friends.? It?s always enlightening to hear a woman?s prospective and to hear their stories of dating.? I?ve heard all the stories of the great dates.? Of course, I hear the stories of the dates from hell.? At some point in time, I?ve begun to be sympathetic to women.? Sympathetic for women who have to figure out a man?s true intensions and remain emotionally guarded.? Why??
I have several reasons.? I realized that society portrays men to be the aggressor when it comes to dating and relationships.? That means from our teenage years until adulthood, women are taught to wait for the man to initiate a relationship.? That sounds like a fantasy idea.
? The truth is some men have been dirty, deceptive, for along time.? They have been afraid to be truthful or to be real in what they are looking for.? I?ve watched for years as some men will say anything, do anything, and give almost anything to get laid.? They buy women flowers, dinner, cloths, jewelry, and even trips.? Why? They don?t have the confidence to be honest and upfront about their intentions.? I truly am feeling sorry for women who buy into this romantic approach.? Trust me when I say, I?m not a skeptic.? I know it?s extremely difficult for women to try to figure out what a man is thinking.? Is he being real?? Is he just trying to get laid?? Does he really like me?? Is he going to change after we have sex?? I was never one of those guys who felt that I needed to be something that I wasn?t just to get the girl.? Surprisingly enough, I?ve live by a direct theory.? If I meet someone and I like them, I just say so.? If I meet a woman and we?re horny, let?s have fun. If a relationship is in our future, then I?ll always admit that. I?ve never had to take on a 2nd identity.? That?s a true sign of confidence and confidence is sexy.? Isn’t it much easier to just be honest about what we want and let our date/mate make a choice?
The interesting thing is men don?t have to play the games to achieve their goal.? They can just be direct, upfront and honest.? I have a suggestion for the women who have the nerve.? If you see a man you?re interested in, take some initiative.? Take control of your dating experiences.? It?s ok if you make the rules, and make him play.? It?s easier when you are on the offensive.?
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I soooo NOT taking the initiative these days. I refuse to chase a man. It’s not attractive and it makes the woman appear desparate. My theory is if a man is interested….I will know he is interested….he will more than likely jump thru hoops to make sure I know he is interested. He will stumble all over himself and almost be goofy….and I LOVE IT when that happens.
I like the “He is just not that into you” book theory.
Now, on the other hand…I am a fun loving gal. I like to surprise my partner, be creative, etc but I have decided that I am not going to put forth the effort unless I really see some genuine interest on my man friends part.
I can’t read a mans mind but I can observe his actions quite well.
Maybe I am just lucky but I have for the most part always been able to tell when a guy just wanted to get laid…
I agree with Jo Jo just slightly. I hate having to ask a man out. If he is interested he will ask me out. But what happens when you meet a shy guy?
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Amen brother Eathan…Amen!!(in my southern missionary baptist draw)
haha@ Teacia I had to read your comment 2 times. I could’ve sworn it said missionary position. (whew)
I thought there might be a southern missionary position that i was missing on on..haha
lol…ahhhh Eathan, u just made my stomach hurt with that one…although i’m sure i can invent one…lol.
Well send pics when you get it perfected. I’ll write a review to describe it my readers…lol
rotflmao…oh goodness *sighing*…ok i’m really going to take the shower now.
Women should just go with the assumption that any man that you don’t know that suddenly initiates conversation or something to that effect is, in the words of Chris Rock “offering d*ck”….lol, makes things really simple and uncomplicated. Think about it, how many guys walk up to women out of the blue just to be purely friends?