Over the last few months, I’ve been discussing dating options with some divorced and newly single people.? I’ve noticed there’s a lot of things that are needed for a semi-successful dating life.? It’s the difference between being socially interactive or being a social misfit.? It’s the difference between meeting the man of your dreams or just being a woman at home dreaming.? There are a few things that can be done to help you hone your social skills.? The best way for you to get better is to practice date.? What is practice dating??
It’s when you go out to lunch, dinner, drinks or even Starbucks with someone.? The woman/man that you go out with may not be a love connection, but it is someone that you can?get along with and have no long term future with.? I’m not suggesting being sexual on your date.
? I’m just suggesting being socially active.? Why would I recommend this?? When you are?learning a?new skill like playing a instrument, reading or even speaking a new language it takes practice.??If you don’t?practice?your basic skills, how do you expect to become experienced?? The skills that this?will teach you will be valuable.??First of all, you will learn to be hold a conversation outside of?work?and family.? You can learn how to answer questions regarding your relationship past.? You can also learn how to say no thanks, politely.? You will also learn how to be able to?express your?thoughts?to another person.? Surprising enough, there are people who have a have no idea of what to say to a stranger that just walks up to say hi.? I know that the movie Hitch was a big hit, but the idea is real.? You have to know?how to handle yourself when you meet Mr or Ms right.? The best way to do that is to be social and practice.??I know you’re thinking, what if they get the wrong idea?? Well there’s only one solution to your problem.? Be very clear and communicate.? Yes communicate!?I know this sounds simple, but it is.? Sometimes you might have to repeat your?desire to be?’just friends’.? Say it 3 times, say it 5 times, just don’t stop saying it.? And if they?still don’t get the hint, spray them?with a can of mace.? I’ve never heard of mace being confused with foreplay.? haha? Communication with your date is totally different that communicating with your friends.? Simple things you say to your friends don’t mean the same to your date.? Of course, your friends aren’t trying to have a romantic relationship with you.? I guess my point is, dating is about being social with the potential of romance.? If the only social interaction you are having is with your girl friends/guy friends then you don’t have romance potential.? The only way you will be able to be prepared for Mr Right is to be fluent in the language of love.? The fact is, with out practice you will still seem like you’re in Jr?High School when you meet a interesting?man.? So the next time you go meet someone for drinks that’s not exactly your type, realize it’s just drinks and you need to practice your social skills.
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