Hello Eathan, I just came across your site.? I am a mid 30′s black male who has become more and more interested with the idea of dating white women exclusively.? Here’s the problem…I can attract black or hispanic women without effort…when it comes to white women I don’t seem to get any signs of interest or attraction. I’m intelligent, articulate and professional. When I’m out I dress trendy (labels etc.).? I generally don’t go out?to specific places to meet white women….when I do go out though the majority of the people just happen to be white.
I generally go to middle of the road bars and clubs….nicer restaurants….social events and outings with my office (I’m a real estate agent) etc.?I’m 36, but I generally find women between 25 and 30 more to my type (I prefer younger with no kids)….I look and act younger than my age….many people think I’m 28 or so. I have 2 daughters and I live in Connecticut.? I feel that I project a confident, clean cut image yet I can’t seem to get more than simple conversation from white women. I’m not sure if it’s something I’m doing (or not doing) unknowingly or if the whole “black guy” thing is stopping them. Which I’m starting to doubt based on reading your posts. Are there any tips, suggestions or nuggets of wisdom you can offer that will help me.
Mr P.? I’m glad you found my site.? Dating outside of your race can be a challenging thing to attempt to do for the first time.? I say that because your approach and style may need some adjustment.? Personally, i’ve never been to Connecticut.? But there are several things that you can try.? The first thing I would suggest is to sign up for a membership for match.com or chemistry.com.? That way you can advertise that you are available to date white women.? Be bold and daring.? Send emails and winks to women that you find attractive.? Make sure you have something in common with them.? Make sure that you post several pictures of yourself.? I recommend that you post clear pictures of your face, that always helps.? You can also view who has viewed your profile.? Those are the women who would like to hear from you.? Something else along this same thought, get a myspace or facebook page.? This is a great way to network with potential dates.? It lets them see inside your life.? Make sure you add me to your myspace also, that’s ?a automatic conversation starter.
The next thing I would suggest is to give yourself social presence at some of your favorite places.? The best way to do this is to make friends with other people that visit there also.? That gives you some type of social credibility.? One of the most important thing you can do is to have a ‘white’ friend.? It doesn’t matter if it is male or female it’s just someone who will make it easier for strangers to be social.? It’s called wingman or wingwoman.? I have a lot of female friends that hang out with me.? And whenever they are around there is usually a group of new women that soon follow.? And nothing says you’re a great guy like a woman who introduces you to another woman.
Last but not least, develop a way to encourage a woman to call you.? Since you’re in RE (real estate) use your business cards to your benefit.? Give them a card and let them know they can give you a call you even if it’s just for drinks.? I can’t tell you how many woman I’ve met by using a business card.? You can’t ask for?it all?in the 1st conversation, but you can leave them wanting to know more.?
I could’ve listed more things, but I just wanted to touch on a few.? I hope these simple suggestions help you in your goal.?
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