Guest post by Cynthia. Cynthia is a black woman from the ATL and dates interracially.  She writes loveselfentirely and a regular reader of IDW. Hi, my name is Cynthia and I interracially date. Why? I like too, it’s that simple. Maybe it was the constant moving around when I was younger that exposed me to more than just one type of people OR the fact that I lived in Germany for 5 years – face it not that many black folks live there, y’all; either way, I’m not exactly sure. I have always been attracted to character, personality and of course looks (if you have an accent, that doesn’t hurt things either) but those qualities aren’t exclusive to just my race. The world is full of beautiful races and cultures, why not date outside the familiar? Why not learn something new that doesn’t have to deal with being a black American.

I’m also not turning my back on my own race. I’m not being “angry or spiteful”, I don’t have the time. I could go on about how the black male character is suffering –especially, since I live in Atlanta – I really could go on about this all day BUT I won’t. It’s not about that because I know there are some gems here, somewhere. So, I don’t see it as turning my back; instead, I see it as keeping all my options open. Which, to me, there is nothing wrong with at all because it’s making me grow as a person. Yes, no matter how Hallmark card it sounds, it’s the truth. I’m on the search for someone who understands me and whom I understand, if that person is not black; it won’t bother me in the least. In fact, I see that as being a highly likely possibility. I don’t subscribe to the mentality that we have the same skin color; we come from the same place so we must stay together…SUPPORT YOUR OWN! So, am I not supporting my own if I marry someone African, they may be black but they aren’t a black American, is that okay? What if they were Egyptian, German or a white American, what does that matter to you or anyone else out there who isn’t me? I’ll always be black, I’ll always support the good in my people but I won’t let that dictate who I’ll love and date, ever! Ho w many times have I’ve heard that as a black woman, I should “hold up” our men. To them, I always say that I do, two of the most important men in my life are black; my brother and my father and even though they are far from perfect, I’ll go to bat for them no questions asked but I don’t believe that anyone deserves a “holding down” pass based on us sharing the same skin or culture. That doesn’t fly with me and never will.

I like who and what I like. Do I have some preferences? Of course, I’m human. Is my first black, American men? No, not really but I don’t rule them out, either.

I look forward to guest posting on this blog for Eathan! I actually like reading his posts and some of the conversations that happen in the comments; I hope that my posts will spark the same level of interest! If anyone has a question, feel free to ask.

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