Google Your Date?
Eathan, I met a guy who I’m very interested in dating seriously. We met 3 week ago and have gone on 3 dates. I am still getting to know him and wondering what do you think about me using Google to know more about him. Does this make me nosey, crazy or just normal? Thanks Brenda.
Brenda, that is a great question. Over the years I’ve taken a lot of criticism because I use Google on a regular basis. I use Google for research, being nosey, and sometimes when I’m bored. Google is like the encyclopedia of the computer age. It’s a great tool. If you want to know about your date, Google him! Put his name in and see what comes up. Of course, you need to prepared for what you might find out. You can find out all kinds of crazy things. You can find birth records, divorce records, and even criminal records. Now if you are using Google because you don’t believe or trust him, then you have a problem.
I personally do a couple things when I meet someone that I’m truly interested in. I will Google their name and/or phone number. A simple search will give me a idea of their history. Why do I want to know? I have kids. The last thing I want to do is get serious with a ex-convict or put them in harms way. I know people make mistakes, but my kids are my main interest. If I didn’t have kids, I probably wouldn’t be concerned as much. I’ve even done a background check. I know there are people that are shocked by this, but these are the same people that don’t believe in a prenup. I believe in google, background checks and prenups. I would expect a woman with kids to do the same. I encourage a woman to do some minor home work to protect her and her children. I hate reading stories of women who met some guy who harmed her and/or her kids. Go ahead and google him once and get it over with. And while you’re at it, google your own name.
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I am all for googling, background checks, and prenups. I haven’t had a reason yet to do a background check, but would hesitate in a second. And don’t get me started on prenups!!!
Too many crazy people out here nowadays …
Single Black Males last blog post..Rantings of an SBM
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August 1st, 2008 at 12:34 pm
I know you like prenups… and I don’t blame ya..
I always bring them up when I’m gettin serious.. it weeds through the fakers really quick.
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If you’re really getting serious about someone and don’t know anyone in an HR Dept. that can do a background check, it’s best to use one of the pay sites that will give you a criminal history, etc. on the person. Better safe than sorry. I’m an ex-criminal magnet, they seem to hang out on interracialmatch.com a lot! Luckily my sis can do a quick check that’s nationwide. I was seeing someone whose rap sheet was longer than I am tall before I knew all this. Is it nosey? I guess that depends on why you’re doing it. Are there serious red flags? What are you looking for? Who are you protecting? I don’t have kids, but I look out for #1 because no one else does! Women’s intuition is a strong thing…if your gut is telling you not to trust, DON’T…google, search your heart out!
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@sweeeet Exactly! I google my ass off…lol
if i had done a background check on a ex i would’ve avoided this nice little scar i have on my leg.. that’s a story for another day… but it’s never failed me.
google, background check and prenups!
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Absolutely agree, if you’re dumb enough to have something out there on the internet, it’s fair game. Google away and see what pops up. It’s better to find out sooner rather than later.
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I see nothing wrong with googling someone that you are interested in.
Although at the same time if someone googled me I might be a little freaked out. So if the info you find via googling them doesnt make you run for the hills i dont know how great of an idea it would be to tell the person you googled them.
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I am the CIA…or so my friends call me…they always call me to search somebody they are interested in…usually for me, I won’t search ‘em until I contemplate introducing them to my kids…
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oh and one more thing…searches aren’t for the guys only…I had this homegurl and we had been friends for over 2 years and I “accidentally” found out she she is a registered sex offender out of Detroit and she was “running” from having to register…Yeah, I search EVERYBODY, now…it’s a tripped out world we live in…
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