Yesterday I had some free time to do something very rare.? I met a reader for dinner.? I know that I said I’d never do that again, but it wasn’t exactly a date.? SN31 and I met initially through myspace.? I was networking, as I normally do, and she wanted to know if I knew her.? Of course I responded, “I want to know you”.? We’ve been messaging back and forth for several weeks.? Eventually we decided to talk on the phone and eventually meet.? We planned several times to go out for drinks or play pool, but it never worked out.? So finally we found a evening that worked out for both of us.? We both were hungry and met at Texas Roadhouse.? That was a good choice to eat and have drinks.
We both arrived at the same exact time.? I recognized her immediately, and it was more than just her talking to me on the phone while she was walking up to the door.? haha!? SN31 is about 5’6″ tall, shoulder length brown hair, brown eyes, slender, and? tanned.? I could tell she’s a size 3.? She definitely attractive.? She’s also divorced with 2 kids, and attends the same church I do.? We hugged and went inside.? I had great timing because we got seated immediately.? Our conversation went very smoothly.? She and I had a chance to talk about kids and football.? We ordered dinner.? She ordered the pork chop dinner and I ordered Chicken Fried Steak.? I must admit that the food was good, in a country kind of way.? She and I had a great time people watching during dinner.? The restaurant seemed to be full of the extras from Talladega Nights.? There were some real characters there.
So the conversation shifted towards dating.? SN31 says she doesn’t date that often.? She has her children full time, so the only free time she has is when they go to grandma’s house.? That usually happens a couple times a month.? So I was wondering when and how her dating life fits into that.? She said the last guy she dated, never met her kids.? They dated for over a year.? The just worked around each other’s schedules.? She did admit, it was difficult.? It made me wonder if she knew the relationship wasn’t long term.? The only time I would seriously date someone for that length of time and not introduce them to my kids would be if it wasn’t a serious relationship.
So after eating, I was curious what is more important in her life.? Friends or Dating.? I can tell it’s her friends.? It seems that her friends dictate what she does in her free time.? This is when I began to realize why I have age requirements.? It seems that younger women, under 30 normally, have a group mentality.? Every where they go, everything they do is in a group.? They don’t seem to act independently of the group.? From my experiences, women begin to mature and venture out in their mid 30′s.? That’s when they venture out on their own.? That’s when they don’t need 5-8 friends to go out, to the movies, to dinner, to have a good time.
SN31 and I will hang out again.? I’m sure it will be on a friendly basis and not dating. ? It seems that hanging out with her friends is the priority in her social life.
Would you rather hang out with your friends or go on a date?
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