It’s official, KT35 is suffering from SMS (soccer mom syndrome).? She has all the signs and symptoms.? I haven’t seen her much.? We talk on the phone every couple days.? Our recent conversations have been about how busy and tired she’s been.? It seems as if things are changing rapidly.? Actually, it’s been almost 2 weeks since our last date.? Since starting her new job at the local school district, she has been unavailable.? It’s been very hectic for her.? KT35 has a full day of work and then she’s involved with one of the athletic teams.? Her work day starts at 730AM and doesn’t finish until 6pm.? She also has her own children active in sports. They have practice at least 3 evenings after work and then games on the weekend.? So by the time she gets home, she’s exhausted.? Our pattern has changed.? We talk on the phone for a few minutes every couple days.? And then the cycle repeats.
Normally when it comes to dating, I choose women who have similar schedules and activities.? Its never any fun when you find someone you enjoy being with, just to realize that your schedules don’t work out.? I’m sure some might think that I’m being selfish.? And you’re right.? I’m selfish.? I’m the only one looking out for me, myself and I.
One thing about being a parent is the amount of personal sacrifices you make.? I’ve had one of my sons live with me in the past.? During that time, my dating life came to a complete halt.? My priorities began to focus on his school work, sports activities and anything else that he needed.? It made it extremely difficult to be spontaneous.? Of course, my social activities reflected him being with me 24 hrs a day.? I spent most of my spare time with my friends that have kids.? When I did go out on the town, I had to plan.? I had to get a babysitter.? And sometimes, it didn’t work out and I stayed home.
I’m totally understanding of her circumstances.? But.? Yes there’s a But.. and it’s a big ole BUT!? I’ve been in relationships where there were too many kid activities.? It consumed every spare moment.? And it was torture.? Example.. A few years ago, i had a long term relationship with Krazy V.? She has 2 daughters and I have 2 boys.? With all of the kids, sports practices, games and activities, there wasn’t enough time in the day.? There wasn’t enough hours in the day, week or month for us.? Eventually, we spent less and less time together.? Before you know it, both of us were miserable.? I’m not planning on repeating that mistake.
This is a common problem when dating divorced soccer moms.? They are very busy and active with the life of their kids.? They enjoy going out a couple times a month and still maintain their independence.? But it makes me wonder.? How busy is too busy?
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