I was married to a hispanic man for 14 years and had 3 children with him. My family was his family. They all loved him as much as they loved me.

Never once during our entire relationship was anything ever mentioned about him being hispanic. Sadly, we grew apart divorced about 2 years ago.

Shortly after the divorce I started dating, black men included, and once the word spred in my family that part of my dating included black men bad judgement was past on me and I was the topic of gossip in my family and it wasn’t nice. One family member in particular was the worst. She was married to a mexican man and had 3 kids with him. He beat the living hell out of her too but in her mind it is a disgrace for me to date a black man.

When I posed the question to her “what is the difference between dating a hispanic vs. Black man” all she could say is there just is and to this day still can’t give me a clear answer.

I still have issues with some members of my family but still choose to date a person based on who they are and not what color they are. The hardest part of all this is that I have 3 children and those who think my choices are wrong try to convince my kids of what they believe to be “right” even though its against my wishes.

I hate the hard-body look. I just want a relatively toned normal looking guy.