One of the most popular myths that you hear about black men is, they don’t give eat pussy, aka give head/oral.  Let me start out by saying it’s a myth.  In the true sense of the word myth, it’s false.  It’s a rumor, a invented concept or story.  I’ve always laughed when I heard people talk about this.  There are 2 types of black men when it comes to oral sex.  First there are those who do it, love it and admit it.  Second there are those who do it and lie about it.  Can you imagine that?  They lie about doing it?  Why would a brotha not give you head?  Well I’ve got a few reasons why black men would either lie about it or not give it to you.

First of all oral sex is one of the most intimate sexual experiences you can share with your partner.  To give a woman oral sex allows you to experience her in a up and close fashion.  There’s nothing better than feeling her body shake and quiver with her legs tightly wrapped around your neck.  Many men enjoy giving women that special lip service that will send her orbiting the earth on a different axis.  But let the truth be told some men don’t know what they are doing.  They might be too rough, too fast, or just totally miss the entire sweet spot.  Or as one friend called a guy, ‘Mr Slurpee’, because he seem to lose control of his saliva.  haha.  Let’s just say she wasn’t thrilled with his performance.  If their previous partner was dissatisfied by their oral skills, they might be a bit shy about exploring with you.  I will admit that I have had women who didn’t know how to lick the wrapper.  What did I do?  I just told them that I wasn’t into it.  Of course, the believed me.

Another reason why black men won’t give you head is they hyper sensitive about being clean.  There is the idea of putting his mouth on a woman is not healthy.  This is a very common thing in some foreign cultures.  I have a close friend that is married to a Middle Eastern man that believes that it’s unclean to eat pussy.  This is a common belief in their faith and their community.

I shouldn’t have to mention this, but I know there are some who don’t take the extra steps.  Hygiene is a must.  Ladies need to make sure they look and smell clean.  It goes with out saying that I like my woman fresh and clean.  That means proper cleansing and grooming.  Don’t be afraid to take a shower before you come to bed.  Let him know that you’re prepared for what’s next.  Nothing says lick me like a freshly bathed body.  Personally, I don’t like body hair.  Why?  I don’t want to be the brotha that’s trying to get the renegade hair off my tongue in the middle of good sex.  How do I know about that?  It’s happened once, and I swore I’d never be coughing up hair again.  So my advice is shave it off.  Keep it smooth.  The sight of smooth skin is hard for a brotha to resist.  He will naturally lean over to kiss it and more.

Of course, there is the man who doesn’t go down on you because he’s just selfish.  Yes, he’s not there to please you.  He’s only looking out for himself.  He’s the type of brotha that will lay back and allow you to please him until you get a mild case of lock jaw.  When you are finished he will flip you over and give you the ‘ugly girl’ treatment.  He will tell you that doggie style is his favorite position.  Within a few minutes he’s breathing heavy and done for the night.

So if you’re dating a brotha that doesn’t lick you like a bowl of jello pudding, you might want to check this list to see what the problem is.

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