The Brotha Virgin
Eathan | Oct 01, 2008 | Comments 18
With Natalie Dylan auctioning off her v-card and The Virgin opting to lose it to a professional sex blogger, what kind of value does virginity have in our society, anyway?? When I was invited to do this round table with a group of fellow bloggers, I decided to take a creative and different approach.? As usual, I’m going to include humor along with my interracial twist.? I can’t say that I put a value on the typical virgin.? The idea of a typical virgin seems to be more of a over exaggerated practical joke.? As I watch movies like American Pie, Fast Times at Ridgemont High, Porky’s, and even Super Bad, I realize that it’s just a bump in the road.? It’s a right of passage from childhood to adulthood.? I’ve written about a different type of virgin on IDW.? Some of you have sent me emails regarding the term BV.? What is it?? What does it mean?
The term refers to a brotha virgin.? A black man virgin.? This is a term that I coined one night on the town with a group of my friends.? I was at a sports bar after the Cowboys game.? I was exchanging phone numbers with a tall Texas blond.? I asked her if she has dated a black man.? She laughed and said, “no..I’m a virgin”.? The phrase BV aka Brotha Virgin was born.? Since that night the term BV has become a fixture in my vocabulary.
- She wasn’t a BV for much longer-
Since, I’m not in search of sexually inexperienced women (virgins) in my life, the BV is a thing of beauty in my opinion.? It signifies a woman who is looking/willing to explore her sexuality.? It signifies a woman who wants to try something different.? It doesn’t matter if she only wants to verify the mythical black lover.? I find it as one of the ultimate compliments.? It’s the fact that her 1st sexual experience with a black man will be with me.? She has trusted me to share/create a memory that will possibly change her perception of black men.? I will admit that it’s a sexual turn on.? It’s a turn on to know that you have taken her sexuality to another level.? I’m sure this might be similar to a typical virgin.? The only difference is, there’s a 99% chance that this will be a great sexual experience.
For all the ladies that have never heard of this, don’t be shocked.? Black men that date interracial think about this almost 100% of the time.? We have a habit of asking you about your interracial dating experiences.? The fact is, one sexual experience might confirm everything she’s ever fantasized about.? It’s possible that once she goes black…? Well you know the rest.
What kind of value does virginity have in society?? Webster defines value as, relative worth, merit, or importance.? Everyone places value on virginity in some form or fashion.? It may not be a moral or monetary, but there is a value.? When dealing with a BV, I’ve been known to take a few extra steps to make sure it’s a memorable occasion.? I will carefully choose background music.? I will strategically wear one of my favorite fragrances.? I will make sure the lighting in the bedroom is perfect.? I will even pour a glass of her favorite wine.? Mentally, I’m prepared to give her the sexual experience of a lifetime.? That means for the next several hours, I’m focused on pleasing her to the point of no return.? I value every minute of this experience.? I value the look on her face.? I value her expressions, her emotions, her pleasure and the memory that was created.
Do I enjoy dating a BV?? Yes.? Will I lower my expectations because she’s a BV?? No.
With Natalie Dylan?auctioning off her v-card and The Virgin opting to lose it to a professional sex blogger, what kind of value does virginity have in our society, anyway?? You can read the more about this round table discussion and what others have to say about virginity.
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Love the moniker, Brotha Virgin.
I’m a single dad in my 40s, and some women sleep with me just because I’m a dad. They see me as someone to sleep with but not get involved with. I treat the experience with respect. As an older man, I know great sex is about pleasuring the woman, rather than getting myself off. The women notice - it’s something they don’t get from younger men they are tring to date.
Maybe I’ll start my own moniker, Single Dad Virgin. I just need some mystique…
Eathan Reply:
October 1st, 2008 at 1:49 pm
haha Single Dad Virgin.. that’s funny. You made me laugh and I needed it.
Oh yeah.. plenty of long term relationships have started with hot sex. Watch out. It could happen.
I remember one relationship I had while I was in graduate school was with a “triple virgin”:
1. She was Jewish and had never dated a non-Jew
2. She was a young undergrad, I was an “older” grad student, I believe 5 year age gap, and she had never dated an older guy.
3. She was an actual virgin-virgin.
I can’t tell you how erotic it was for me to sleep with her. She experienced like 3 different unusual things at once. I imagine this is similar to the turn-on you felt dating a brotha-virgin. Anyway, the sex was mediocre the first couple of times, but it got interesting QUICK, mostly because I knew what I was doing. As far as first partners go, I was probably not a bad choice.
I will tell you something else. My bedroom game is really solid, and when I sleep with a chick who’s only had mediocre sex with her past chodey boyfriends, and it totally shifts her perspective on what sex can be, that turns me on more than anything else. I can practically sniff those girls out, the ones who have never had good sex.
Thanks for participating.
Eathan Reply:
October 2nd, 2008 at 12:33 pm
The triple..hmmm I think there’s a few new verbage being used..lol
Impressive.
Great sex always attracts a new class of woman looking for satisfaction.
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BV reminds me of Bacterial Vaginosis.
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Eathan Reply:
October 4th, 2008 at 6:44 pm
omg.. you almost made me choke! :p
eathan… i must comment.. what difference is a woman who is a “virgin” to brothas than one who has only slept with white men???
tell me the validity in that please. i have dated mostly black men in my adult life, but this whole rumor that all black men do it better than white men is a crock of crap…
also, how do find time to write so much? is this your job? just curious…
Eathan Reply:
October 6th, 2008 at 8:05 am
You’re question isn’t clear. I need you to explain it. It seems like you asked the same thing twice.
I never said that ALL black men do it better. I like to make sure they get the best experience they are looking for.
This isn’t my job. I use my time wisely and write on a schedule every day.
I guess I’m efficient. 
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