Crossing Paths

by Eathan

Lately I’ve had to deal with something that I haven’t faced in years.? As everyone knows, I pick up Dirt Bike Boy from school every day.? The problem is, I am now circulating in close proximity of one of my ex’s.? She lives in a neighborhood very close to Dirt Bike Boy.? I guess it was a matter of time before I crossed paths with her.? That happened last week.? I was a few blocks from the school when I noticed a black SUV next to me.? It was TW42.? I was speechless and frozen.? My heart began to race.? I didn’t know what to do.? I wasn’t sure if I should honk the horn or wave like some local celebrity with a muscle cramp.? This was the first time I’ve seen her since we broke up.? I was awkward, but I kept driving.? I just pretended not to see her.

TW42 isn’t one of my normal ex’s.? She’s the one that got away.? That’s right, the one that got away.? I don’t speak of TW42 often, but she remains in my mind and heart.? TW42 and I dated about 2 years ago.? It was a off and on relationship.? There are some really great memories with her.? I was on the verge of committing to a monogamous relationship with her when it ended.? After the relationship ended, I heard that she reconciled with her ex-husband.? I still can’t believe that.

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TW42 and I haven’t spoke in over 2 years.? I’m not even sure what to say if I came face to face with her.? It could happen when she’s with her husband, family or friends.? I’m sure I would be my normal friendly and social self.? But I don’t want to trip and fall down or stutter.? I’d hate to end up on YouTube looking like a idiot.

Normally I don’t think or prepare for the unknown.? I just have a feeling that we are destined to cross paths and see each other face to face.? At this rate it could be very soon.? I’m attempting to prepare myself mentally and emotionally for it.? At this point I just want to get it over with.? That way I don’t have to look over my shoulder in anticipation.

I’ve thought about ways to try to make it easier.? One of the options is to simply send her a email.? I might get the “I can’t believe you still have my email” response.? I’ve also thought about picking up the phone and saying hello.? I might get the, “you still have my number?” response.? Either way it could be awkward.? It’s possible that she’s going to feel uncomfortable also.? What happens if she’s with her family or friends?? Will there be that weird introduction?? You know the one where you expect a hand shake and she grabs you for a hug or vice versa.? That means she would have to explain to them who I am or was.

So in normal IDW style, I want to get ideas from my readers.? Have you ever crossed paths with one of your ex’s unexpectedly?? Was it a pleasant meeting or awkward?? Did they have the I’ve missed you look on their face?? Or was it, I don’t know what I saw in you?

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Article by Eathan

Life long interracial dater and father of two.  Currently resides in Dallas and socially active in the DFW area.  You can connect with Eathan on Twitter and Facebook.

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  • Sooner Girl
    Sooner:
    Booommmer!!
    Please don't confuse my sarcasm w/ being bitter. Yeah I ended it, and I'm over it, but he's a great guy. I didn't mean any disrespect toward him. You've prob heard, if you love something, let it go. That's what happened. We loved each other, great on paper, but simply not compatible in real life. So after 5 yrs of trying, had to move on.

    That being said, I also mentioned I'm a girl and sometimes, whether we want to admit it or not, we're just not completely rational. So even though I didn't want to be w/ him, relieved it was finally over, etc, as an honest girl, I can admit I was pretty shocked when he married so quickly. Not hurt, not bitter...just closure. My only point was, when you're certain you've done the right thing, and you're living you're truth, you're ok w/ running into the ex...even if you look like hell.
  • I forgot to mention this... HOOK'EM! WE GOT another 360 days! :D
  • Isn't sarcasm just a witty way of saying i'm bitter and I can't think of a funny joke? ;)
  • Ugly Sooner Boy
    I agree with boi. But Cute Sooner girl..you need to comment on HER! For somebody who supposedly over her man of ten years, she sounds hateful as hell! She drops him. She is with the hot FWB but yet she disses her LONG TIME ex bigtime! Damn, what's up with that!? Is he mad because he jumped back with someone so quick after their break up?
  • Cute Sooner Girl
    I stumbled across your blog recently and have read many of your posts. You seemed like a mostly sane, honest-whether girls liked it or not, guys' guy. Until this! Are you being serious? I'm trying to figure out if you're just trying to appear sensitive, though, from reading your other posts, not sure why you'd suddenly decide to do that.

    If you're being serious...you've gotta trust yourself and the old adage: "There's a reason she's an ex," and keep moving fwd.

    Two years ago, I broke off engagement. Had dated the guy on/off for 5 years, been friends for 10. He was a dear friend and mostly great guy. Adored me, spoiled me, but IT just wasn't there for me. Decided by this age, I know myself well enough to know if it's going to work or not. I haven't waited this long to get married to have to talk myself into believing some guy is the one, ya know? So i ended it for good. Gave the ring back. blah blah. Then, 6 months later he married some ugly, boring ass teacher he'd only known for about 3 months. And since I'm a girl and girls are crazy, it's ok for that to bother me, even though I dumped him! ha Well, I ran into them together. Very single me, icky from a workout; lovey-dovey them, coming from church. He saw me first i guess b/c he was staring when I saw him. Then she came around the shoe thing. He hugged me. Introduced me to his uglyass wife. I congratulated them. We asked each other about our families. She asked about my cancer, which I found really creepy. Then we went on our merry way. Easy. No sweat. The whole thing lasted about 90 seconds. Sure, woulda been easier if i was dressed to go out instead of the dang gym and if I'd had my hot FWB w/ me. But even w/ a ponytail and no make-up, I still looked better than her and I knew they both knew that! I walked away feeling a little sorry for her b/c she's the one stuck having mediocre sex the rest of her life!

    Be your confident self. You'll be fine.
  • I think everyone has that one person in their past that they have a weak spot for. I think she is that person.. or one of them. Normally I see a ex and it's cool. We speak.. we hug.. we move on. This one is sorta different. I'm not sure if it would be that way. It might just be a smile from across the store. Who knows.
  • Rasheed
    What up homie? When you see her just give her a hug and a kiss. If you going to feel the anxiety you might as well feel it for some type of pleasure. Aggressive moves force people to have to make a decision and you can see where she stands in regards to her feelings for you.

    We got to hit the town this weekend?

    BTW...Site looks good.
  • Sup Rasheed.. When I see her face to face.. it's going to be interesting. I think I'll have to wing it and see what happens.

    Next weekend is my weekend. I got the boys this weekend. I might be up for Monday Night Football. I gotta update you on a couple events... and get you a couple introductions too. ;)
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