Comments on: Divorce And Holidays http://idatewhite.com/2008/11/29/divorce-and-holidays/ Fri, 19 Mar 2010 05:48:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Eathan http://idatewhite.com/2008/11/29/divorce-and-holidays/comment-page-1/#comment-3162 Eathan Wed, 03 Dec 2008 18:53:37 +0000 http://idatewhite.com/?p=1135#comment-3162 I spend alot of time with my kids.. It was different for me when I grew up. I grew up with both parents (not divorced), but we traveled during the holidays. So I've never attached at date with a holiday. We had Thanksgiving dinners on the days when our travel schedule allowed. And most of my friends did they same thing. Even if it was going to Colorado for a ski trip or the Bahamas... sometimes having that "Thanksgiving Thursday" wasn't the important thing. Our tradition has always been differnt..lol What ever works for your situation... as long as the kids are happy. I spend alot of time with my kids..
It was different for me when I grew up. I grew up with both parents (not divorced), but we traveled during the holidays. So I’ve never attached at date with a holiday. We had Thanksgiving dinners on the days when our travel schedule allowed. And most of my friends did they same thing. Even if it was going to Colorado for a ski trip or the Bahamas… sometimes having that “Thanksgiving Thursday” wasn’t the important thing. Our tradition has always been differnt..lol

What ever works for your situation… as long as the kids are happy.

]]> By: dadshouse http://idatewhite.com/2008/11/29/divorce-and-holidays/comment-page-1/#comment-3160 dadshouse Wed, 03 Dec 2008 18:20:38 +0000 http://idatewhite.com/?p=1135#comment-3160 Don't discount your time with the kids! I used to let my ex have the kids on every long weekend. Pretty soon, though, I realized all their picnicking memories were being made with her. I now take them half those long weekends, and while I don't have the extended family she has, my kids and I are creating our own memories. We do the every-other Thanksgiving and Xmas routine. It sucks, but what doesn't suck around holidays and divorce? lol <abbr><em>dadshouses last blog post..<a href="http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/12/03/miley-cyrus-nude-photos-not-a-mistake/" rel="nofollow">Miley Cyrus Nude Photos Not a Mistake</a></em></abbr> Don’t discount your time with the kids! I used to let my ex have the kids on every long weekend. Pretty soon, though, I realized all their picnicking memories were being made with her. I now take them half those long weekends, and while I don’t have the extended family she has, my kids and I are creating our own memories.

We do the every-other Thanksgiving and Xmas routine. It sucks, but what doesn’t suck around holidays and divorce? lol

dadshouses last blog post..Miley Cyrus Nude Photos Not a Mistake

]]> By: Thanksgiving Eve Karoke | http://idatewhite.com/2008/11/29/divorce-and-holidays/comment-page-1/#comment-3143 Thanksgiving Eve Karoke | Mon, 01 Dec 2008 15:25:39 +0000 http://idatewhite.com/?p=1135#comment-3143 [...] week most people travel to spend time with their family.? Since being divorced, I spend my holidays with my friends.? So I decided to go 1999out for drinks on Thanksgiving Eve.? There are a few local pubs there [...] [...] week most people travel to spend time with their family.? Since being divorced, I spend my holidays with my friends.? So I decided to go 1999out for drinks on Thanksgiving Eve.? There are a few local pubs there [...]

]]> By: Eathan http://idatewhite.com/2008/11/29/divorce-and-holidays/comment-page-1/#comment-3139 Eathan Sun, 30 Nov 2008 19:56:47 +0000 http://idatewhite.com/?p=1135#comment-3139 Sounds like you have a fun family. I bet the family reunions are fun too. Sounds like you have a fun family. I bet the family reunions are fun too.

]]> By: Eathan http://idatewhite.com/2008/11/29/divorce-and-holidays/comment-page-1/#comment-3138 Eathan Sun, 30 Nov 2008 19:55:13 +0000 http://idatewhite.com/?p=1135#comment-3138 That's awesome. I hear tons of horror stories about people who fight and argue over 'the day'. I think it's crazy. You can celebrate any holiday any day of the year. It's what you make it. That’s awesome. I hear tons of horror stories about people who fight and argue over ‘the day’. I think it’s crazy. You can celebrate any holiday any day of the year. It’s what you make it.

]]> By: Eathan http://idatewhite.com/2008/11/29/divorce-and-holidays/comment-page-1/#comment-3137 Eathan Sun, 30 Nov 2008 19:41:47 +0000 http://idatewhite.com/?p=1135#comment-3137 Yes, I get plenty of time with my kids.. so they don't feel like they are missing out on anything. Yes, I get plenty of time with my kids.. so they don’t feel like they are missing out on anything.

]]> By: Dawn http://idatewhite.com/2008/11/29/divorce-and-holidays/comment-page-1/#comment-3136 Dawn Sun, 30 Nov 2008 18:28:33 +0000 http://idatewhite.com/?p=1135#comment-3136 My divorce didn't happen until the children were adults, my son was 18 and my Daugter 22.....this was a few years ago, my family is in Texas and we live in Missouri for all the years. the main thing I wish for the holidays is my children could have been around my family more over the years....my family is large,loud and much more fun,than my ex side(not that they are bad just different), I tried to keep the family influence going from my side thru the years and I think I did a great job that might be part of the reson for the divorce. My divorce didn’t happen until the children were adults, my son was 18 and my Daugter 22…..this was a few years ago, my family is in Texas and we live in Missouri for all the years. the main thing I wish for the holidays is my children could have been around my family more over the years….my family is large,loud and much more fun,than my ex side(not that they are bad just different), I tried to keep the family influence going from my side thru the years and I think I did a great job that might be part of the reson for the divorce.

]]> By: Cilla http://idatewhite.com/2008/11/29/divorce-and-holidays/comment-page-1/#comment-3135 Cilla Sun, 30 Nov 2008 17:57:57 +0000 http://idatewhite.com/?p=1135#comment-3135 Good for you! My son spends every other Christmas with me and every Thanksgiving with his dad. We could alternate Thanksgiving, but frankly, the holiday is not a big deal for me (I don't spend it with my family--they live too far away). It is a big deal, however, with his dad's family. Family members fly in from the east coast and they have an entire weekend of eating, movies, theatre, sleepovers, etc. It doesn't seem fair to deny my son all that fun just to even the holiday score. Since we've been doing it for a while, I've become used to having a four-day weekend to myself. On Thanksgiving day, I visit with a few neighbors, cook just for myself, and enjoy the free time to read or watch a movie. On Friday, I get a manicure, do a little shopping, etc. My son comes back to me on Sunday night, full of stories about his cousins and all their weekend antics. Rather than take one day of the year to express our thanks, we make a point of finding things to be thankful for on other nights throughout the year when we are together. Good for you! My son spends every other Christmas with me and every Thanksgiving with his dad. We could alternate Thanksgiving, but frankly, the holiday is not a big deal for me (I don’t spend it with my family–they live too far away). It is a big deal, however, with his dad’s family. Family members fly in from the east coast and they have an entire weekend of eating, movies, theatre, sleepovers, etc. It doesn’t seem fair to deny my son all that fun just to even the holiday score. Since we’ve been doing it for a while, I’ve become used to having a four-day weekend to myself. On Thanksgiving day, I visit with a few neighbors, cook just for myself, and enjoy the free time to read or watch a movie. On Friday, I get a manicure, do a little shopping, etc. My son comes back to me on Sunday night, full of stories about his cousins and all their weekend antics. Rather than take one day of the year to express our thanks, we make a point of finding things to be thankful for on other nights throughout the year when we are together.

]]> By: Singlegal http://idatewhite.com/2008/11/29/divorce-and-holidays/comment-page-1/#comment-3131 Singlegal Sat, 29 Nov 2008 21:57:49 +0000 http://idatewhite.com/?p=1135#comment-3131 I think your compromise says fair and that you are thinking in the best interests of your children. As long as you are getting the chance to make up the time with you children, I think you have a pretty good solution. Best to you for the holidays, Singlegal <abbr><em>Singlegals last blog post..<a href="http://suddenlysingles.wordpress.com/2008/11/25/what-was-missing/" rel="nofollow">What Was Missing</a></em></abbr> I think your compromise says fair and that you are thinking in the best interests of your children. As long as you are getting the chance to make up the time with you children, I think you have a pretty good solution.
Best to you for the holidays,
Singlegal

Singlegals last blog post..What Was Missing

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