Mormon Girl – The Final Chapter

by Eathan

As many of you know, Mormon Girl was planning another trip to Dallas for her Care Package.? I’ve been procrastinating from telling her that I’m no longer interested in her.? Well it finally happened.? The final chapter has been written and there’s not turning back.? There was a big discussion if I should be a dyck and ignore her.? Or should I be upfront and tell her the sex was really bad.? Well I made up my mind and went with the quick and painless approach.

A couple days ago, I noticed her online (yahoo messenger).? So I decided there wasn’t a better time to address the issue.? After a brief conversation, I decided to just put it out there.

Me – well ya realize it’s best that we just remain friends…with out benefits

Mormon Girl – No Problem

Me – Cool, I didn’t wanna lead you on or get you pissy mad at me. lol

Mormon Girl – Yep

Me – yep wha?

Mormon Girl – no worries Eathan

Me – ok, I understand gotcha

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The interesting thing is, every guy has an idea when a woman is going to leave her regular mindset and go postal on him.? This was one of those cases.? I had a feeling that she would be over the top mad and unleash all of her unholy Mormon Mojo on me.? It took about 15 minutes before my phone started to blow up.

“u can go ahead and get over urself!? ur not the reason I want 2 move back to Dallas.? It’s obviously my mistake trying 2 remain ur friend.? U shouldn’t mistake kindness 4 something else!? I’m tired of ur arrogance.? use it on someone else!”

This would’ve been where she poured hot coffee on me, if we met in person.? (thank god we didn’t)

Wow, I knew it was coming.

So I had to reply, “I’ll try to remember that the next time a woman tells me she’s tired of being the only one trying.”

I thought that might be enough to solve the problem.? It was evident that she was over reacting to the rejection.? The only thing I could hope for is that she doesn’t track me down when she’s in Dallas on Monday.

It took 5 hours (10pm) when she calmed down to send me an apology, “there’s no excuse 4 my bhavior 2day.? I was offended that u assumed the only reason id want 2 c u was 4 benefits?!?!? I haven’t mentioned anything sexual 2 u since Dallas.? I want kids and I won’t compromise on that.? Take care.? I truly wish u nothing but happiness!”

I didn’t reply.? I won’t reply.? Once again, I realize that parts of her text are lies.? From past history, she only messages me when she’s horny, planning a trip, or horny.? There’s no reason for me to think anything has changed.

Now as I’ve mentioned before, I was a bit cautious about how I was going to handle this.? Looking back, I don’t think there was any way to avoid this reaction by her.? I’m positive that her reaction isn’t rare.

So I have to ask two sets of questions, one for the guys and one for the women.

Woman – Have you ever reacted this way after a sexual relationship?? What makes you loose your mind and go postal?

Men – How many times have you been afraid to be honest with a woman, because of the fear of retaliation?

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Article by Eathan

Life long interracial dater and father of two.  Currently resides in Dallas and socially active in the DFW area.  You can connect with Eathan on Twitter and Facebook.

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  • Nephie
    I dunno E...I usually don't go postal...it's usually the other way around....so, what is it that makes a guy loose his mind? I think it's the million dolla question....but I've never had a casual sexual partner go nuts...just LTRs...my friends with benefits remain friends and a couple of them have waited until my LTR was over and picked up where we left off...90% of the time I'm the one leaving...but things that would enrage me with a partner in a breakup situation is disrespect...I feel that as long as there is respect then the breakup is alot more smooth...
  • Steven
    Eathan,
    Good for you getting this taking care of. I can relate. I had similar issue long ago, but mine was a woman i will call (BH-90210). An she did not go postal when I ended it and was able to keep in touch for a number of years. Mostly her contacting me to tell me how great things were going in her live and to see about getting me jealous or show what I was missing out on. That was fine with me, she was a really sweet girl, she just miss represented herself (which I think you had a past thread on about why women only send pictures of up close face shots). I have had other relationships in the past were some women have gone Postal and others that have taken it really well and we stayed friends. Everyone is different and I never learned which women would react which way, but always know that honest and communication are the best policy.
  • Most of my exes stay friendly with me. There are only a very select few that are pissed at me. Those are usually the ones that were too attached.
  • Cilla
    Eathan, why are these women getting too attached? Is it the Wang-a-Dang ;-) or are you not having conversations that you should? Or are they just not hearing you when you say it's casual and in their heads, it's something more?
  • I blame it on the Wang-a-dang. I'm clear on which relationships are serious and which ones aren't.
  • I'm sorry. I was thinking of giving a detailed comment but I couldn't stop laughing. WOO! Psycho! My mom gave me the best piece of advice I've ever gotten-MOVE ON.

    <abbr>Julie@Cool Mom Guides last blog post..Music Monday and some Memes</abbr>
  • I want to hear the detailed comment...lol
  • Cilla
    No postal behavior on my end. I find it much more satisfying to keep my dignity. A few rounds on the heavy bag or an hour at the batting cages are better outlets for anger.

    If a guy in a casual sexual relationship stops contacting me, I follow his lead, and let the correspondence go. In several instances, however, I have had guys come back several months later, looking to pick things up as if we had never left off. In those cases, I never took their calls or returned their texts/emails. I figure the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, so I know they will eventually fade away again. I wasn't emotionally attached to them, so it wasn't heart breaking to me. I guess I'm doing the same thing right now with somebody who just isn't a good match in bed for me.

    Now a serious and exclusive relationship is a different story. When a guy does the slow fade there, or worse, pretends he's still in the relationship but starts shopping around online or IRL again, that's just insulting and dishonest. I've had it happen twice. I didn't go postal with either of them (at least, not out loud--you should have heard the conversations I had in my head!!!, but I think I would have been justified if I had. I didn't just slink away with my tail between my legs either. I called and emailed to express my disappointment and to ask what was going on. In both cases, I suspect because they were essentially caught cheating, THEY went postal on ME. I was eventually able to have a reasonable conversation with one of them, and we ended the relationship on a friendly note, but the other one was a lost cause. Karma's a b**ch, though. I heard he's still with the woman he cheated with, but she's 13 years younger than him and wants him to reverse his vasectomy so she can have kids. Divine retribution, if you ask me LOL.
  • haha... The fact you had conversations in your head makes me laugh. Has any of the actual conversations gone like the ones in your head? :D
  • Cilla
    Yes, one went exactly as I expected--I felt like a lawyer who had prepared really well for a day in court. That was the relationship that ultimately ended well.

    The other one...well, you know the saying "You can't have a conversation with a crazy person?" Nothing I argued in my head could have prepared me for the nonsense coming out of his mouth. Sometimes you just have to walk away...
  • hahahahahhahahaha. Ha. ha ha. Whoo!

    <abbr>Julie@Cool Mom Guides last blog post..Music Monday and some Memes</abbr>
  • You are my resident laugher. I knew you would be laughing when you read this. ;)
  • Connie
    I do not think I go postal after a break up of any kind but I do have a problem with being ignored. I will never blow up a guys phone unless I am being ignored and that one sets me off very quickly. If there is a problem just be a dyck and tell me the problem. It's out in the air the issue is over as soon as the conversation ends. I will say what I think and you will too and then we will be done. I may apologize later for being harsh but all we want are answers and not to be just ignored or dismissed without a reason. I have told guys that I am in a relationship with that I would rather you just tell me the problem, you hate me or whatever than to just be ignored. That just leaves us wondering what was wrong with us and why we are unbeautiful for some reason when sometimes it's just a simple reason for it not working and has nothing to do with that person in general but things just didn't click with you anymore. But ignoring us leaves us questioning us and we can run hundreds of reasons through our heads of what we did wrong and find fault in ourselves but normally it is the guy who just isn't ready to commit or simple reason and has nothing to do with us as a person and what we did or didn't do but we can never see that we just see us as failed again. So for all you men out there reading this just get some balls and man up and tell us don't just ignore us...
  • Some how I get the idea that you would still have a list of questions after it's over. Of course that's just my hunch. lol
  • I when I was in college, I was definitely afraid to break things off, because I knew they were going to flip.

    But then I realize that same reaction is one of the many reasons why I wanted to end it to begin with. So why not make the sacrifice and put up with it if it's going to be the last time you'll have to hear it?

    That to me is worth trying to end it on a nice note but I feel as though women pre-determine if they are just going to burn the bridge, whether they are reacting blindly on emotion or not.

    But, then again...this should be lesson that there really isn't a good way to end any type of relationship.

    <abbr>Infinitys last blog post..Developing an Appreciation of Women and Everything About Them</abbr>
  • You're right. When emotions are involved..there's really not a good way to end a relationship. Someone will get pissed and hurt.
  • I havent gone postal but I get mean - really mean if I feel I have been hurt!

    BUT in this case your silence for so long would have made me say nothing to be honest. I would have gotten the picture ages ago!!

    And its not like you were involved in anything serious anyway - so she did over react - even the second text is irratating!

    And NOTHING annoys me more than that "I wish you happiness" - seriously I HATE it when exes send me that crap! I cant give you a valid reason WHY - it just annoys me!
  • You get mean.. Wow. Does that mean I wouldn't want to be near you in a restaurant?

    I have to ask, what do you wish upon you're exes... pain and suffering? lol
  • LOL no not that kinda public displays of meaness! Like saying mean stuff - I can be exceptionally harsh if I want to be and if you hurt me I tend to hit back where it hurts you!!!

    Nothing - I wish them nothing? Does that sound mean?

    I dont wish them harm or anything negative but I just find that "I wish you happiness" thing annoying!!! The mommas boy that I dated did it - 2 years later he STILL does it and it really is pathetic!
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