Every time my buddy and I work together, he always asks me if I am going out to have a drink after. Most of the time, I say yes and then the next line is always the same.
When are you going to hook me up with a white girl??
I cringe as I even write this so just imagine the look on my face when I?m asked this.
Why don?t you go out and meet them yourself??
Because I don?t know how to.?
That line perplexes me every time. You don’t know how??
Yeah, when it comes to black women, I can get them just like that. *snap* But I have no idea what to say to a white woman.
I just find that so weird. It’s not like women of different races are different species.
He is my buddy, whose name I won’t reveal. He’s a 24-year-old black male who is very successful in what he does. I mean, if I had to give an example of success and what every woman would want in a man, I would show this guy. He’s a great guy. He’s also amazing with women, particularly black women. I’ve seen this guy go to fashion show and take home a runway model in a matter of minutes. I mean, this guy gets what he wants and he’s never cocky or arrogant about it.
I listen to him explain to me how he meets and attracts the women of his interest. Everything he explains to me tells me that he projects an amazing confidence and some of the stories he tells me makes it seem like these women just had absolutely no chance , they were going to be attracted to him no matter what.
So the simple question for me to ask is, then why don’t you just do the same thing when you approach a white woman??
He freezes up. He thinks that you have to speak and act differently when meeting white women. He actually gets nervous when he would even try to approach one. And because of that, he reverts back to what he knows, which in most cases would be acceptable. He wants to meet and date white women, this case makes it unacceptable.
But he doesn’t need advice. He needs encouragement. There is no reason why he can’t walk into a room and attract any female he wants. The problem is him getting over his anxiety and going for it. But for him, it’s a very hard thing to do.
I promised him we would go out one night so that way he has friend that can help him get comfortable in such environments.
He knows that I have experience dating women of different races and he’s noticed lately that I have been dating a lot more white women as of recent memory. He thinks that I’m doing something different, making it easier for me to attract more white women. I tell him every time that I do the same thing. The conversations may be different but the approach is always the same.
Hey, what’s up??
So this has made me want to look into this much more. Do guys have an easier time approaching one race more than another, despite your preference? Women, when you notice guys that approach you, do you notice that certain guys are better at doing it than others?
I want to show my buddy what others think of this. I know he’s not alone, right?
Guest Post by Infinity. You can read more of his experiences at http://www.projectinfinity.me
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