Pushing The Limits

by Eathan

When it comes to your sex life, every now and then you have to push the limits. ?Sometimes that includes exploring fantasies, props, changing locations or incorporating a camera. ?I’ve always been open to pushing my partners limits because of the excitement involved. ?Once you experience the adrenaline rush, you’re addicted. ?Recently I’ve pushed the limits with 2 different white women. ?Both of the circumstances are different, but provide some type of thrill.

A couple months ago I wrote about an experience with someone who didn’t understand the reality of being a parent. ?Even though we never met, some how I became a challenge because I declined her sexual advances. ?Over the last couple weeks she’s messaged for a birthday booty call. ?She’s messaged for a after work hook up.. she’s just keeps messaging. ?I think it’s because I’ve kept saying no. ?Seriously? ?What kind of guy says no to late night, no strings attached sex? ?Me, of course. ?( sometimes)

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After finding out she was sexually frustrated from her last sexual experience, I decided I wanted to do something different. ?Our last conversation turned into me pushing the limits. ?I decided that I wanted to know what she would say yes to. ?So I told her that I had some rules for her, if she wanted me to be a booty call. ?You might laugh, but I was making the list up as I went.

  1. Shave ( i hate hair)
  2. I don’t share ( once we hook up.. you’re on lock or I’m done)
  3. No questions
  4. I’m fixed – don’t say ya want kids, don’t say you’re late, don’t message saying I might be pregnant.
  5. Be prepared to have sex in different locations – backyard, golf course at night, ect
  6. Taking pictures – taking pictures during the hook up.

I will admit that some things on the list is exactly what I expect, but there are other things on the list that are totally off the wall. ?I won’t say which are which, but I pushed the limits. ?It was fun to sit back and wait for her response. ?Shocking enough, she said yes. ?She was open to my list of booty call rules. ?I’m not going to say what happened next, but it will shock you which one of the rules she didn’t like.

So after my conversation with her, I had a message from SWS39. ?She wanted to release some sexual energy. ?I was open to the idea, but I wanted to see if I could push her limits. ?The only problem was, I’ve known her for almost 4 years. ?And I think we’ve crossed that path a long time ago. ?Hmmmm… nope I know of a couple things that we’ve never discussed.

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So I told her that it’s been a long time since I had a 3-some. ?She laughed and mentioned that she’s too selfish to share. ?Damn! ?So I suggested that we have backyard or golf course sex. ?She immediately said, “I’ve never had sex in the car.” ?That reminds me of high school. ?I’m not sure if that sounds exciting enough. ?The next thing I suggested was elevator sex. ?I’ve had it before, but that was 10 yrs ago and honestly it’s tough finding a high rise that doesn’t have cameras in the elevator. ?The one thing that got a loud ‘hell no”, was my suggestion of going to a swingers club. ?I was suggesting swapping partners. ?I was suggesting letting others watch us. ?It would be a great way to explore being a exhibitionist.

Are some fantasys better unfulfilled? ?Do fantasies make your sex life more exciting? ?Do you think my list of rules was over the top? ?Is the shortage of good lovers making it easier for a woman to accept me pushing the limits? ?What have you done to make your sex life more exciting?

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  • Eric
    Lmfao, wow. I need to print some copies of the agreement.
  • Dekutoski
    THE PRE-BOOTY CALL AGREEMENT

    This pre-booty call agreement (hereinafter referred to as the Agreement") is entered into on the _____ day of __________, 2009, by_______________________, between ____________ and ______________. THIS AGREEMENT SHALL COVER THE FOLLOWING RULES AND PRINCIPLES:
    1. No sleeping over - unless it is very good and we need to repeat it in the morning.
    2. No meeting in public except for dinner or drinks before the events of the evening.
    3. No calls before 9 PM - we don't have shit to talk about.
    4. None of that "lovemaking" crap - only mind-blowing sex allowed.
    5. No emotional discussions (i.e. Do you love me? Where are we heading with this?) The answer is no and nowhere, so don't ask.
    6. No plans made in advance - that is why you are called the "back-up," unless you are from out-of-town, then it's only a one-time advanced arrangement.
    7. All gifts accepted - money is always good.8. No baby talk - however, dirty talk is encouraged.
    9. No asking for comparisons with former lovers - it's really none of your damn business.
    10. No calling each other "friends with privileges" - we are not friends, just sex buddies.
    11. Calling out the wrong name during sex is OK - don't be offended.
    12. No extra clothing - I don't want your ass leaving anything behind when you leave.
    13. No falling asleep right after sex-it's over, so get your ass up and gohome.
    14. Don't be offended if I don't ask if you enjoyed it - I don't care.
    15. You cannot borrow my car for any reason.
    16. If anyone asks who you are, the standard response will be: "My roommate's girlfriend /boyfriend."
    17. Doggie style preferred - just hit it hard and right or get the hell out!
    18. Reason for doggie style: the less eye contact the better.
    19. We hook up absolutely whenever the mood strikes ME - so don't keep calling.
    20. The most important one - no condoms, no fucking. Carry your ass home.
    21. Bring your own drink - I am not your liquor store.
    22. No phone use, please - don't want anyone calling back looking for your ass. *EXTRA TIP FOR SUCCESSFUL BOOTY CALLS: The above rules may only be altered by the holder of the agreement. If the other party attempts to change or alter any terms of this Agreement, it will automatically become null and void and you will then be removed from the BOOTY CALL LIST and deleted from phone memory and email list. In other words, you will be BLOCKED from all communications until your silly ass understands the rules.
  • Silly SWS39. Apparently, she doesn't know that the proper response from a woman to any guy who suggests a threesome should always be:

    "Sure, as long as I get to pick out the second man!"

    <abbr>moody.bitchs last blog post..Are You in a Relationship Yet?</abbr>
  • HAHA... you're too funny.
  • Fantasies are awesome. I love pushing limits. My last lover wanted sex in the car, sex outdoors, etc. We did it all. Funny thing - we're going at it in my backyard last summer, under a starry night, totally beautiful. And racoon hops the fence, looks at us, then starts walking slowly over to get a better look. We ran indoors, fast! It was funny.

    I'd be wary of the photo sessions. You never know where those might land.

    <abbr>dadshouses last blog post..She Smiled, We Met</abbr>
  • I had to laugh when you mentioned the racoon coming for a closer look. Maybe they don't call it doggie style...lol
  • Cilla
    Funny, I thought the handcuffs were kinda mild relative to a swingers club. Silly me. ;-)

    I've dropped rules over time, because as you point out, the adrenaline rush of trying something new keeps sex (and often relationships) exciting and fresh. Other than heavy bondage and functions better left to the bathroom, there aren't a lot of things I wouldn't consider, or haven't done, with the right guy (or gal ;-) ). (Cameras aren't off the list, but they're not my favorite either, given how easy it is to put something out there on the Internet. Even if you've been with someone for a while, there's no telling what happens if you break up.)

    I think for me, being in control of the situation makes it easier to decide which boundaries I'm willing to break. Someone who doesn't know you, is willing to comply with your list, Eathan, and completely relinquish all power in the situation (especially the no questions part) seems like someone who has boundary issues with men in general. If I don't know someone well, I'm usually only comfortable pushing limits of sexual behavior when I'm calling the shots.

    I confess I've done things like you describe above. One night last year I hooked up with a man with whom I'd only exchanged emails through an online dating service (we had corresponded for quite a while). To make a long story short, I texted him and told him to meet me in the back row of a high-end movie theatre, where I would be sipping red wine. I added that I was wearing a skirt with no panties (which I knew was his favorite from our emails), high heels, and expensive perfume. We wound up getting it on in the back of the theatre. It was thrilling to know that at any second we could get caught.

    It's not my usual MO, but it was nice for a change. While I don't feel like I'm in that college age everything-is-an-experiment mode, it's nice to push limits once in a while. I also think there are differences between fantasies that you keep just in your imagination and fantasies you'd like to someday act on. Sometimes the right person and the right time can transform the former into the latter. That, to me, is when things really get fun...
  • In the back of the movies? Wow!!! That's hot. Last time I tried to get simple oral.. she got caught with her head in my lap. I'm officially jealous of you now. ;)
  • Sweeeet
    Most of the time, limits are nothing but a dare. Your list is mild. Where's your sense of adventure??? LOL I saw handcuffs and got all excited...darn!
  • A dare? hmmm you're probably right. My list was mild because I was making it up as I went... I didn't wanna scare the poor girl off..lol

    If I went straight to the handcuffs..she might have called me Rick James or something. ;)
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