How Do You End A Booty Call?

by Eathan

Over time I’ve written about how important a FWB or a Booty Call is. ?The sexual satisfaction clears my mind. ?It helps me relax. ?It’s helps me when I’m not in a relationship. ?Bottom line is I am a sexual guy and I can’t go extended periods of time with out it. ?But recently a booty call did something that made me wonder if she violated the core premise of our understanding.

The last few months, I’ve had a booty call relationship with a white woman (of course). ?She and I met through online dating. ?We never approached our relationship from any other angle but a booty call. ?Why? ?She exceeded the number of children that I would desire in a potential girl friend and we seemed to be more sexual equals than anything. ?Over the next few months, we maintained a sexual relationship. ?Our schedules allowed us to have sex once a week, sometimes twice. ?It was satisfying, because she enjoyed the same kind of sex I did.

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She even followed the my basic rules of a booty call.

3. Get Wild -? Make sure that you?re comfortable enough with your booty call to be sexually expressive.? The goal is to have fun, so enjoy yourself.? Be vocal, be loud, be animated.? Don?t hold back.? If you want to try something new, this is the time to do it.? You can get spanked.? You can get tied up.? You can get licked all over or you can have all of these things done to you and more.? It?s OK.? Booty calls are supposed to be the type of sex you?ve dreamed about.

2. Orgasm – This is the type of sex where it doesn?t matter who gets there?s first, just make sure everyone gets to orgasm.? Obviously, you are wanting to have one so have a couple.? If you?re partner isn?t doing something right, tell them how you like it.? The orgasm is the ultimate goal.? With out the orgasm, you would be at home.

1.? Just Do It – ? Do it all.? This is a booty call.? Do anything and everything that you and your partner enjoys.? And do it until you?re tired or one of the two of you can?t go any further.? Drink a glass of water, slip your man a Viagra, get some lubricant?and do it again!? The best kind of booty calls are the ones that leave you out of breath, out of energy, and out for the night.

I know it doesn’t seem like there’s a problem, right? ?Well, last week something happened that made me wonder, “Is this allowed with out notification?”

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I emailed her through the dating site (we don’t use regular email). ?She deleted it and didn’t reply. ?A couple days later I emailed her. ?She deleted it and didn’t reply. ?WTF??!!!

I’m horny and I’m horny. ?I’m horny and I can’t think straight. ?I need my regular booty call to clear my mind. ?So I picked up the phone and sent her a text. ?She replied back with in a few minutes….

“I just realized that I want more. ?I want something more than just a booty call. “

My reply…

“that’s cool.. so much for a notification or communication.”

Now, I have a delima. ?I’m horny and I need to find a new booty call that will take care of business. ?And I have a couple questions. ?Isn’t she supposed to give me some kind of booty call notice? ?Maybe a 7 day notice? ? Isn’t a booty call supposed to tell you when something has changed? ?Or should you expect a booty call to end abruptly?

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Article by Eathan

Life long interracial dater and father of two.  Currently resides in Dallas and socially active in the DFW area.  You can connect with Eathan on Twitter and Facebook.

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  • Honestly, men who have NSA relationships bail all the time without notifying the female that it's over.

    No strings attached means just that...... she owes you absolutely nothing, she's not obligated to even reply. It just means that you both get together when you're both feeling horny and when it's convenient for the both of you. It wasn't for her anymore, so she bailed. I think she did you a favor. She could've demanded a relationship or turned stalker on you.

    Sure, it's the polite thing for her to do, to tell you it's over. But seriously ? Not really gonna happen.

    I am of the belief that there is always another booty around the corner. Just move on and get your freak on, lol.........

    <abbr>Sandras last blog post..I'm a prisoner in my own mouth</abbr>
  • Naw, she doesn't owe you anything. But atleast she answered your text.

    <abbr>Constances last blog post..Friends</abbr>
  • thanks.
  • Nephie
    I say at least she was smart enough to know that when the rules changed for her to bail out...with out without notification...she could have gotten psycho on you? Count your blessings and keep on hunting!!! She may get horny soon and wanna hit it again...who knows? :)
  • lol.. you're too funny.
  • Dude - join the club of sexually frustrated single parents! Lol. I've had booty call partners end it cold just like that. And for the same reason - they wanted more from the relationship. The thing is, once a woman makes that decision and acts on it, there's no turning back. The booty call is through. At least that's been the case with women I've met.

    ANother reason to date four women at once... http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/04/29/how-to-date-four-women-at-once/

    dadshouse's last blog post...Marisa Tomei - Sexy Stripper, Single Mom
  • It's rare that they end it so abruptly.. but this one was odd. It was almost as if she was scared to tell me or maybe I'd just forget who she was..lol

    oh well. Next!
  • Priscilla
    OMG, when will men stop wanting to have their cake and eat it too?!

    You wanted a no-strings, FWB, booty call arrangement. Notice, I used the word "arrangement," not "relationship."

    Be careful what you wish for, because sometimes you get it.

    Sorry, I agree with my sisters here: no notice of termination required from either party. Yes, it would have been more polite or friendly had she said something sooner. Maybe she was thinking about how to end it and preserve herself, or maybe she was hoping you'd want something more like she did. While she was mulling it over, another week passed and now her hand was forced.

    I also agree with the PPs who were confident you'll find someone new soon. You seem to have no lack of attractive women in your life. Just be your charming self, and in no time you'll have a new friend. ;-)
  • I don't have a problem with it being over.. but it would be nice to know when it is over. Instead of the delete button. Don't they call when ya want it? Shouldn't they call when it's over?
  • Again only if that is an agreed upon courtesy. If you never asked her to do that up front and she never said yes, then she had no obligation. Just let it go.

    <abbr>Jane Wonders last blog post..What fairytales don?t tell you</abbr>
  • maichichi / Amy
    Oh Eathan, sometimes you are TOO MUCH! Sorry babe, but I agree with Jane and Miz. . .in the land of booty calls, where free lovin' falls from the sky like manna from heaven, you just gotta "get it while the gettin' is good."

    Which is to say, there are no rules, that's why they call it NSA. I do however, believe in a certain moral code, a sex-tiquette, if you will, that many kind players follow. Which is to say, she coulda given you a headsup sometime AFTER her realization and sometime BEFORE you were left holding the, um, bag.

    As a loyal reader, I am 100% confident that you'll find a new FB in no time. . .although you may want to consider having her sign a non-disclosure agreement in addition to her termination of contract clause. . .lol.
  • HAHA @in the land of booty calls. I like the way that sounds. Like a mystical fantasy land.

    I'm sure I'll find another one.. I might have to dig into my reservoir of booty calls. ;)
  • I've been in a FWB relationship with a guy for five years now. It's truly a "friends with benefits" deal, since we're first and foremost great friends who have each others' backs. My friend established the ground rules from Day One -- he wasn't looking for a committed relationship, period. I hadn't had much luck with those either, so I agreed.

    I have requested of him that if anything changes, he should tell me so I can make an informed decision as to what course of action to take, and I would (and have) done the same for him. About four years ago, I met someone online who I thought I might actually have a relationship with, and told my friend I would like to meet him. He told me he wanted me to be happy, and gave his blessing. I met the guy and it was a total disaster. I came running back to my friend, and haven't pursued any other relationships since.

    My friend is safe, nice, generous, courteous, helpful -- all the good things you'd expect in a traditional relationship. But the FWB aspect is very freeing, in that either of us could pursue others if we wished, AND we don't have to account for our whereabouts 24/7. We each maintain sufficient independence to live our own lives, and choose to be in each other's life. Right now, we're both fine with things as they are, and I for one will enjoy it for as long as it lasts.
  • You really do have a FWB instead of the booty call. And It sounds like you enjoy it. Nicely done.
  • I don't think she HAS to give you forewarned notice. Since you two aren't in a relationship, neither of you are obligated to the other for ANYTHING.

    I appreciate her honesty in telling you she wants something more. She DID tell you things have changed! Since you two aren't a talk-on-the-phone-every-night couple, her telling you this via text is fine, in my opinion.

    We all know the emotional attachment happens VERY OFTEN, especially with women. If you are honest with her as well, saying that you don't want anything more, than you must end things if you're not on the same page because the situation will escalate from wild hot sexytime to DRAMZ!

    You're handsome. It shouldn't be too hard for you to find someone else! Really. ;)

    <abbr>Miz Chartreuses last blog post..?I was interested in working out a sugar daddy situation.?</abbr>
  • Thanks for the compliment. I have a open spot in my 'rotation'. :D
  • See, here's the thing about a booty call. It's not a relationship. I know, you knew that already. But because it's not a relationship, it doesn't follow relationship rules. And since it doesn't follow those rules, she didn't owe you notice. She correctly assessed that you were not interested in being more, so she got out. She owes you no notice, nothing.

    Here's my suggestion. Next time you get a booty call situation established, lay a ground rule that you'd like to be notified if anything changes. It doesn't mean you can request one last hurrah, but you'll at least know why you're being blown off (or not, as the case may be) next time.

    <abbr>Jane Wonders last blog post..What fairytales don?t tell you</abbr>
  • The ground rules of a booty call? That's an interesting perspective. I'm wondering if this one didn't get my booty call opt out notice.
  • Why not? And aren't there already ground rules? (No sleeping over, no talk of feelings, no need to call the next day, etc.)

    <abbr>Jane Wonders last blog post..What fairytales don?t tell you</abbr>
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