If there’s one day of the year that is the most important to Mom’s it is Mother’s Day.? It’s the day that the world has set aside to show appreciation for the woman who gave birth to you.? This year I had a surprise that will last me for the next few months.? Alpha Boy called me on Friday and mentioned he wanted to come over.? Of course, I said great.? I automatically figured Saturday would the day but, he corrected me.? I want to come over on Sunday.
I immediately reminded him that Sunday was Mother’s Day.? If his mother gave him permission, I would pick him up.? It took 5 minutes for him to call back.? So we made plans for Mother’s Day.
Sunday afternoon I picked him up.? He wanted to eat lunch and hang out.? So he and I went to Buffalo Wild Wings.? We had the chance to talk about anything he wanted.? He told me about his girlfriend, she’s white too.? He talked about his new puppy.? He talked about everything but his mother.
So I asked him, “did your mom anything?”
Alpha Boy – no
Me – Why not?
Alpha Boy – I don’t want to.
Me – Are you mad at her?
Alpha Boy – No
Me – Are you getting along with ya mom?
Alpha Boy – Yeah, everything is fine.? I wanted to hang out with you.
Me – cool!
The rest of the day we played basketball, went shopping and just hung out.? It was a fun, but interesting.? I couldn’t help but wonder, why was Alpha Boy protesting Mother’s Day?? Why was he deliberately ignoring his mother on the most important day of the year?? More importantly, why did she sacrifice “her day”?
Even Dirt Bike Boy’s mother mentioned, “what is going on over there… why doesn’t he want to be with his mother?”
I can’t answer that and he didn’t give me any information either.? I know a few things about my son.? I know he is a thinker.? I realize this is his way of protesting his mother.? I’m not sure what she/they are dealing with, but he’s making a semi-political statement to her.
Anyone experience anything like this before?
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That’s a tough one to peg. For some reason I got a kick out of customer’s reactions while buying cards when the total would come up and they would wind up spending $40-50 on cards.(I work at Walgreen’s).
I can understand the fact that Alpha Boy is a thinker, being one myself. A lot of times I may hear or see something and my brain will start processing it. Then accordingly there will be moments where a quazi-theory may come out of that train of thought.Maybe this could be an attempt at trying to find a different means of showing appreciation for his mother.
Well, you know your son better than I ever would, so I can’t really help you answer this.
However, I was a child once, and I used to act like this once in a while, where there really was no rhyme or reason for the way I acted. I just did it because I felt like it.
It is quite possible that he really just wanted to spend time with you on Mothers Day, and didn’t really think about the meaning of Mother’s Day.
I don’t know what is going on between you and your ex-wife. But if she was making it difficult for you to see your son, maybe he feels resentment against his mother for that. Children are intuitive.
Just my .02
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Maybe this could be Alpha Boy coming into the stage of realizing his independence, and as part of it he pulls away from his mother.. Just a thought.
If I am remembering correctly in a prior post you said that Alpha Boy’s mom was getting or had gotten re-married? Is that correct?
Well as a son raised by a single mom, I can say that being the only male in the house and then having a new older man join that household could be upsetting even if they are treating you great. So now he is not he “man of the house” anymore. So could be his way of dealing with that issue by showing this to his mom. Just a thought.
Maybe the new husband made plans for Mother’s Day without consulting Alpha Boy and he thought “Why are YOU making plans for MY mother on Mother’s Day and not asking me for my input? And why is my mother going along with it and not asking me what I would like to do with/for her on Mother’s Day? Screw you both, I’m going with Dad”.
Whatever the reason, he made a really stong statement, without saying a word, about how he felt. I would be heartbroken if my son wanted to spend Mother’s Day with his father; I would also know that for him to do something like that, he must be really upset with me about something. It’s too bad you can’t talk to his mom to find out what’s going on.