A few months ago, I wrote about crossing paths with one of my ex’s.? Normally I wouldn’t be worried, but this is the beautiful white woman that would’ve ended my dating madness.? I know this is a shock for some of you, but she was the one that got away.? And even while I write this, I take a deep sigh.
We finally crossed paths, in a strange way.? Last week Dirt Bike Boy and his mom decided to go out to eat for dinner.? I was invited, since the ex and I are cordial.? Normally I would go and hang out with them for a bit.? But for some reason I declined.? About 30 minutes later I checked my phone and there was a text…
“Thought you should know.. we just ran into TW42 and her re-married husband at dinner… it’s their anniversary”
Wow!? I was blown away.? For the next 10 minutes I didn’t know what to say.? So I responded back with one word, “kool”.
Was I cool? No.? For a brief moment, my heart sank.? I knew they reconciled and were back together.? I knew that one day we would cross paths.? But some how it gave me a weird feeling.? And it also gave me closure, in some strange way.
The next 3 days TW42 was on my mind.? I found myself checking out her Face book pictures.? It stirred up a few deep memories of the time we shared.? And after it was all said and done, I’m happy.? I’m happy that she’s happy.? Everything happens for a reason.? I’m not sure what the reason is, but I’m sure it’s for the best.? Now it’s only a matter of time before I cross paths with her face to face.
Isn’t this type of emotional connection reserved for women and not men?
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I think it’s healthy to be happy for an ex who moves on with her life in a positive way. What else could you feel? Anything negative will just drag you down.
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Eathan Reply:
May 16th, 2009 at 4:44 pm
That’s exactly how I feel. Can’t waste time on the past.
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No, I think men and women both feel this way when their exes move on. I just think that men deal with their emotions more privately than women.
When my ex started dating again right after we broke up, I was really upset and he knew about it. He told me that if the tables were turned, he would’ve been upset, but wouldn’t have shown his emotions.
I’m glad you got your closure. Everything does happen for a reason, and sometimes it just takes longer for that reason to be revealed.
My POV is that having that one that got away can be a good thing. You’ll appreciate the next lady a lot more. Timing is everything, and honestly, if you were really ready to settle down with her, you would’ve done it. You can meet a great person at the wrong time.
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Eathan Reply:
May 16th, 2009 at 5:12 pm
you’re probably right.. we hide our feelings well.
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Hearing how it all made you feel gave me reassurance that men really do fall in love too and that they also get their hearts broken like us women. Sometimes it’s hard to remember that. Thanks for opening my eyes again.
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Eathan Reply:
May 16th, 2009 at 5:33 pm
y/w
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Agreed with David, staying positive is the way to be here. Very normal, very human reaction. Cheers for being cool with it.
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