She Imploded My Phone

by Eathan

Lately I’ve been dealing with a frustrating habit of someone I’ve gone out with a couple times.? It’s at the point where I’m ready to add it to my list of pet peeves.? And trust me when I say, it drives me crazy sometimes.? A few weeks ago I met PB49.? She’s and I usually eat dinner a couple times a week.? It really doesn’t matter what time I call or text her, she’s available.? But last week her texting habits are driving me crazy.? And I’m starting to realize that her texting habits are a direct reflection of her conversation skills.

Normally she sends a text to say hi and I respond back.? But that is where anything normal ends.? Within 3 minutes, I have 5-7 text messages from PB49.

What ya doing?

I’m at home..

are you at home?

hello?

ok bye

later

you must’ve got your itch scratched somewhere else

bye..later

I pick up my phone and think WTF??!!? Can a brotha respond before you implode my phone?? I took a few minutes and called.? I mentioned that she needs to cut back on the quantity of messages she sends at one time.? Her response was, “sure… no problem.”? I assumed that the problem was solved.? Sadly, it happened again the next 3 days.? On Monday I was pushed to my limits.? I was sitting on the patio at Ra in Plano.? I responded to her first text.? Immediately I received 10 messages.? My friend Craig said, “who the hell is blowing up your phone?? Damn!”? At this point I couldn’t even smile about it.? I was pissed.

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So after leaving Ra, I called PB49.? This time I took a stronger stance.? I explained to her that if she sends me a 10-1 or even a 2-1 text ratio, I will no longer talk to her.? She acted shocked.? She couldn’t believe I felt so strong.? I also explained that it equates to her doing all the talking and me just sitting there quiet.? Every few minutes I could say ok or nod my head.? And even though that works for some people, but not me.? It irritates the hell out of me.

It makes me wonder if this is a simple cry for attention?? Or maybe it’s just the way she communicates.

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So the last few days I began to take notice of our conversations.? I sat on the phone for 30 minutes while she talked.? At the end of the conversation my word count was close to 150.? She carried the rest of the conversation by herself.? It was so out of control I joked, “you’ve reached the maximum word count for one conversation.”? She just laughed and admitted the she got carried away.? DAMN!

Have you ever experienced anything like this before?? So I have to wonder is there a text ratio rule that should be followed?? Do texting habits reflect conversation style?

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Article by Eathan

Life long interracial dater and father of two.  Currently resides in Dallas and socially active in the DFW area.  You can connect with Eathan on Twitter and Facebook.

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  • Eric
    *dead at the 30 min rant* I would have been like click!!!
  • Chris
    I had a similar thing happen with a lady I met on an on-line dating site. She was cute, had a good command of typed English, had some similar interests, so I moved to "lets talk and set up a time to meet".

    Once on the phone, she was a non-stop chatter box. I mean, I couldn't even interrupt rudely to get a word into the "conversation". She talked for almost 30 minutes straight, despite my best efforts to hold up my end of being in a conversation. She used fully sentences, not too many "likes" or "umms". She just never stopped for air, or me...

    It actually got to the point where I was impressed, usually when people don't inhale for 30 minutes they suffer hypoxic brain injury, but she was fine.

    Needless to say, done with her.
  • Chris I have to laugh at that one. She might have suffered from some other brain injury that we don't know about. 30 minutes with out breathing? I'm impressed.. that's not easy to do.
  • Nephie
    OMG! Craziness...yeah I think she doesn't have enough to do...wow
  • haha..ya think?
  • Nephie
    I think I have the opposite habit...I'm terrible about returning communication...I'm subject to not answer the phone, texts, Vmail, Email, IM's, Hell even the door!! And it could be someone I'm really diggin, too! What does that mean?
  • that means ya moody or Krazy...haha
  • Needy. Your post says "she's always available". Sounds to me like she has nothing else going on and, while she's at home, bored, she's not thinking all of the things that you do in your life. Just reading your blog says that you are a very busy guy. I don't like when people do that and I have a friend that does, but, like stated above, she has an iPhone and she sends long texts that get chopped up on mine. But your gal saying "I'm at home" isn't long. She just needs to get a grip and learn to knit or something.
    Or, you can stop giving it to her so good that it's all she can think about :)

    <abbr>Andreas last blog post.."Peter Pan was a dwarf!"</abbr>
  • You noticed my wording.. Great job! I used term "always available" because it describes the situation well. knitting? that means she would want to give me socks, blankets, and ect..lol
  • Aww man, one of those kind. I remember talking to this Latin girl who was a hell of a talker and she just kept on going and going. While talking she got onto this super long tangent and it literally sounded like an overzealous saxophone player trying to play a million notes.

    Yes there should be a balance. One thing that I've seen in Pick-Up material when it comes to, "Phone Game", is that guys should never overdue texting/calling. IE: Sending multiple text and she doesn't respond comes off as being desperate/needy.
  • Yeah it does come off as being desperate & needy. I don't intend to ignore her..but it turns into that once the phone starts to implode.
  • I agree w/ Linde. She clearly doesn't understand textiquette. Might be a generational thing, who knows? Mabye she has it confused with IM or maybe she sees your phone blowing up when you're together and thinks you'll respond. I've also had the issue with folks who have blackberries and iphones--one screen for them is like 5 text messages on my old school phone. You tried schooling her, so if she gets dropped, well, she did it to herself.

    <abbr>expatsinglemamas last blog post..Handy Manny is such a poser</abbr>
  • Yes, I've told her how to work that Iphone. Of course, she knows it all. lol
    I've figured out that it's on purpose.. it's not by accident.
  • Linde
    That is crazy...I have met people that when we meet in person and perfectly sociable and than we text...they just don't "get it".
    My bf is one of them. He is great on the phone or in person, but when he text mssgs, it is somehow lost in translation, so to speak.

    However, there is NO EXCUSE for sending a ton of text mssgs to someone before they even have time to pick up the phone to respond to the first one you sent...geeeezzzzzz
  • Well said. I'm trying to decide if I can deal with the over-zealous conversation.
  • Marsha Thompson
    Wow that is funny! Was her name Michelle?! I knew a girl who did this to everyone including me and I had to tell her finally "I am not your man!" hahaha
  • No her name isn't Michelle. lol I think I'll use the, "i'm not your man" response next time. ;)
  • Karl in NC
    If someone's a self-centered boor, s/he'll do it in person, on the phone, or by text message.
  • I don't know if it's being self centered or just a talker. blah blah blah 24/7 haha
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