Guest Post by Harassed Mom, a South African blogger. When I left my ex-husband I plunged head first into the world of online dating. I was desperate for male contact. Any kind. It didn’t matter. Online dating provides that. There is a sea of men out to meet just about any set of standards. My evenings were spent chatting too many various men. Emails were exchanged, cell numbers handed out and dates arranged.
But over all it was not a pleasant experience for me. I seemed to attract young boys, barely legal who wanted to fulfil my every fantasy, Nigerians looking for a free ticket into South Africa and men older than my father who promised me the world.
There were ones who got through but they were few and far between and eventually I found the whole idea soul destroying so stopped checking my messages, stopped seeing who had added me as a favourite. I let it all go. Then about 8 months ago I joined twitter. It took me a while to get into it but now I can’t get through the day without twittering about the random goings on of my life.
So what does that have to do with dating? Well everything actually!
I never joined twitter with the idea that I would meet men there. It was not my intention. But as it turns out it is a brilliant place for meeting single guys.
Twitter allows you to share what is happening in your daily life. You share significant things or your share totally random snippets of information – like what’s for lunch or what’s happening in the traffic.
All this randomness allows you a personal insight into someone’s life though. You learn more about a person through these tweets than you do through the superficial passing of emails that happen with people you meet through online dating sites.
You are able to follow people and then unfollow them if you so choose. You can build relationships with people who share common interests or who impress you. You can do this in a public way through your replies to each other, which is nice in that you don’t have to swop emails and do the whole email chat thing. You can spend some time following them to see if they are someone you would like to get to know better.
Our local community sets up meet ups at least once a month. These are awesome. It is a chance to meet the people you chat to daily in an informal setting. You can mingle and network and scout out who you think is worth your while or who you would like to go home with.
For me twitter has opened up a whole new world of interesting people. It does this without the stigma that is attached to online dating. Are you using twitter to help you social or dating life?
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