The last couple weeks I’ve been chatting on messenger with TH43. She is a newly separated with 2 kids. Standing 5’5″ tall, with brown hair and a big smile. She always mentioned how she wanted to make new friends and hopefully meet one guy for no strings attached (NSA) fun. It wasn’t until she mentioned that she’s never experienced a black man, when I decided that I would meet her out for drinks.
I normally avoid women who are separated and not divorced yet. From my experience they aren’t worth the time and energy. It’s usually full of drama, emotional issues and complaints about the ex. But I made an exception since she was a BV. TH43 and a group of her friends were going out for drinks at the McKinney Tavern. I didn’t want to invest too much time, so I planned to get there fashionably late. Since they were there at 9pm, I decided to hit a pool party for a couple hours.
Around 1130pm I began to get texts from TH43. “Are you still coming… Did you change your mind?”
I replied, “I’m on the way.”
I arrived at the McKinney Tavern around 12am. That gave me a hour to hang out before the tavern closed. When I approached the table I realized that the group was much larger than I expected. There was a table of 10 women and one guy. After I was introduced to everyone, I sat down. Since they were already buzzing, I decided to order water. I could tell TH43 was nervous. It was evident that her friends realized that she’s never had a swirl experience. Within a few minutes two of the black women at the table worked their way towards me to get the scoop. It was a bit shocking to see them encouraging her to have a swirl fling. They wanted to know all the usual questions. What kind of work do you do? How long have you been divorced? How many kids do you have? Do you normally date white women? Within a few minutes I mentioned, “these are the type of questions I would expect if I was asking her to get married.” They immediately laughed and left me alone.
After spending 45 minutes with TH43, I decided to leave. She and I walked outside. We had a few brief words and then I kissed her goodnight. For me the kiss was just a regular kiss, but she didn’t feel the same. Her arms were wrapped around me tight and her hands shook from being nervous. I didn’t find out until a few days later, that is the 1st kiss she’s had in over a year. And since she was married for 18 yrs, it’s been a while since she kissed someone new. And definitely a new experience for her by kissing a black man.
I’m wondering if her nervous reaction comes from the fact that her friends were watching or because it’s the first kiss from someone new? Are her friends being nosey or helpful? I’m also trying to decide if TH43 is worth the energy of having a NSA relationship.
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