Sometimes being a guy friend can put you in tough positions. One of my good female friends has been involved with a black man that she several months ago. And over the course of time, she was torn on what to expect out of their relationship. But recently, it took a quick turn.
She met the Doofus last year. He was invited to a singles event where he met me and a few other of her friends. She immediately asked me for my opinion of him. Without hesitation I said, “Stay clear… he’s a player.”
Of course, she didn’t realize that I was being truthful. Maybe she thought I was just cock blocking her dating bliss. But she didn’t realize that doofus and I know some of the same people. And during the evening, he and I had a brief conversation and I put 2 and 2 together. Immediately I realized 4 was way too many.
For the next couple months, he pursued her relentlessly. He did all the things that would make any woman feel special. He would call, text, invite her out and much more. And like the most woman, she soaked up the attention like a desert rose. After a couple months, their relationship finally became sexual. And she became dickmotized. Since both of them are busy professionals and he is too busy to dickmotize her once every 10 days. She begins to wonder if he’s being honest with her. She wonders if he’s pleasuring other women. Things just don’t add up for her. And since he travels with work, it’s difficult for her to figure it out.
Eventually they set up a relationship of no expectations. They can date other people, but only remain sexual with each other. You would think this type of relationship would benefit a man, but maintained his once every 10 day routine.
What makes the situation tough for me is I have concrete proof that he’s been lying for the last several months. So now I have to be the stand up guy and tell her. But in the process of telling her the truth, I will have to reveal details of my past that don’t make me look like a saint. Yes, that’s right… I’m not Saint Eathan.
So for the last 7 days, I’ve been experiencing an internal battle of morality. Should I tell her and leave myself open for ridicule or should I keep it to myself and let her waddle in the wind?
Well the situation practically solved itself. She informed me that she cut if off with Doofus via text message. Even though he wasn’t happy to lose a BV in his sexual rotation, she’s just happy to move on. And I guess I could’ve kept the proof and secret to myself, I didn’t. I think I was being a friend by revealing his lies. And in the process it has put a spotlight on one of my social circles.
Did I handle this right? Would you have risked your own reputation for the happiness of your friend? Does this make me the official Swirl cockblocker?
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