Dealing With Jealousy And Two Women

by Eathan

There are times in life when you can crawl into a hole and hope the storm blows over.  Or you can stand proud and continue to experience everything life has to offer.  As you might imagine from my writings, I will always choose to experience what life has to offer.  Over the last few months I’ve dealt will a lot of controversy with my arrest.  But one thing that the controversy has done is refreshed my memory on screening dates.

In the past I’ve researched my dates by using google and other business resources.  The one thing I’ve done since my arrest is tell every woman I’ve dated about my interracial nightmare.  Not for the sympathy factor, but so they know where my thinking is and also to have women around me with a concern for my sexual health.  During that process, I’ve noticed that AD33 has stepped up her game.  She has gone out of her way to be supportive and spend more time with me.  She’s a bit jealous of other women in my dating rotation, but she deals with it.

Recently AD33 and I went out to a local pub for a couple drinks.  When we arrived at Ringo’s I noticed there was a long line at the bar and service was extremely slow.  So I decided we should move to the next pub around the corner.  As we walked out of the bar I noticed EJ32 sitting on the patio with a group of friends.  I casually waved at EJ32 as I walked by.  I knew that would be the easiest way to deal with the situation.  AD33 and I spent the next couple hours on the patio of The Gingerman. 396 watermark 320x240 patio Dealing With Jealousy And Two Women

I expected to get a text from EJ33 as we walked around the corner, but it never happened (thank god).  I hate to say this, but I was a bit nervous.  I wasn’t sure if calm & sober EJ33 was on the patio or if it was tipsy and feisty EJ33 was on the patio.  I know some people think that white women are timid and calm, but if tipsy and feisty EJ33 was on the patio, there could be a major problem.  When it was time for us to leave, we passed EJ32 and friends again.  Nothing was said by either women, but I knew that there would be a conversation about this at another time.  As soon as we drove off, AD33 questioned if she was the woman who shared the interracial nightmare with me.  I notified her it wasn’t.  I wasn’t sure if she wanted to know just in case she wanted to kick her ass or if it was out of jealousy.

So I’m wondering what is social etiquette.  Should you acknowledge your ex if you’re with another person?  Or should you just wave from a distance?  Or is this a case where a little white lie would work?

For me, I confirmed her identity to AD33 to give her heads up.  Because most of the women I’ve dated have a jealous streak.  And since I can’t predict the reaction of the other woman, hopefully the woman that is with me won’t act foolish.  I’m still sorting out the after affects of that night.  So I’m sure there will be more on this topic in the future.

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Article by Eathan

Life long interracial dater and father of two.  Currently resides in Dallas and socially active in the DFW area.  You can connect with Eathan on Twitter and Facebook.

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  • I'm honest to fault. But you never know if there is a better way to handle it. Like you... I like to know what or who I'm dealing with. And dealing with a highly jealous person is a major problem to me.
  • LB3
    I would say honesty is the best policy. I think that you should acknowledge someone that you have dated even if you are out with someone else. A woman can sense the tension, and I had this situation before. The guy kept looking and I simply asked if everything was ok. He said it was a former girlfriend and was wondering if he just at least say hi. I said of course its better then pretending you don't see her. He excused himself they exchanged a few words the evening went just fine after that. Everyone needs to understand we have all dated before and the chance you will run into someone is expected.
  • So it's ok to leave the current date to speak to the old one? Wouldn't you want to be there and have a simple introduction? I'm just curious.
  • LB3
    I wouldn't need to be introduced to the ex necessarily. It's one thing if you run into them at a store and it would be awkward to not be introduced but if your out at a bar and you excused yourself to say hi I would not be offended.
  • Should you acknowledge your ex if you’re with another person? Or should you just wave from a distance? Or is this a case where a little white lie would work?

    When dating multiple women…lying is always bad business to me; just easier, faster and simpler to tell the truth. I’d have to say acknowledge and wave all in one. If they are within in distance, i.e. walking past and they stop…then stop, be courteous and then carry on. I do believe at a later age…it works in your favor. On occasion women (men too) put up a front and act as though they are above petty jealousy and things of that nature. I’d like to know the type of woman I am with. I’m in my 40’s now and divorced. I left a marriage that was good then got bad and I couldn’t go to the gym or receive spam mail without catching an accusation. Now, I have not time for jealously at all. If I can’t speak to a woman I used to date or anything else with and the woman I am with isn’t confident and self secure in who she is and what she brings to the table and enough to know she is with me…then I have no time for her. Thanks for the heads up, fine company, good fun and my search continues.


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