Thomas Edwards
I grew up in Boston, in a neighborhood plagued with racially tense issues, which I coped with by trying to ease tempers, hoping it would help things in my world go smoothly. This didn’t help me much personally: I was teased for being a nerd and a “nice guy.” Things in high school were different: I became competitive, and learned this could win popularity contests. Everything — sports, clubs, my love life — got better.?
College was another mixed bag. I went away to school, in Pennsylvania. I subconsciously tested various ways to lead my life, including long-term relationships (that left me crushed and unfulfilled,) transferring schools, leaving school for a job and a car and independence, and then going back to school — learning through it all that nothing I did was what I really yearned for.
Then, while still in college, I started reading all I could on topics that might help change my life: I read books and blogs and watched DVDs on everything from being more efficient and organized, to networking, to style, to relationships and love, building attraction, boosting self-confidence, creating a positive image — anything that could make a man out of me. I was passionate about what I was learning. And it was like an elixir: As soon as I applied the material to my life, improvements were nearly?instantaneous. I stayed single as long as I could so I could stay focused on all that positive change. All this, coupled with a fantastic summer spent with a good buddy (one of my best friends?ever?and a mentor to me in many ways) led me to see changes I could never have known would happen.??
When I finally started dating again, I found myself dating multiple women — not in a sleazy way, but playing the field, like in my dad’s day, which only makes sense when you think about it. It was a little overwhelming, but let me tell you: The rush was?amazing, and I was?shocked?by my progress. By my senior year, I owned my campus. I’d created the life every guy dreams of: Think “Van Wilder,” but graduating on time.?
But it’s funny how a person quickly grows fat and lazy with success.?
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